You girls are strong (relationshipish wise)

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now, and she's told me shes only been with one other guy. He took her virginity, and basically really mixed her all her emotions. They "dated" for 2 months. It was her only relationship before me.She told me about how when they'd have sex, he'd basically go at his own pace, constantly hurting her. He would say "just let me finish," and that would be that. Judging by that and how he'd never call her, imma go out on a limb and say he didn't care for her other then for sex. They broke up for no apparent reason...he text'd her to give her to doing the breaking up.I've been the only guy who's bought her flowers (well, when comparing me and him ), the only guy whos taken her to a movie, bought her gifts, etc. And i dont mean to sound like this superior boyfriend, i'm just doing what any other bf would do. Im just telling you this to give you more of an understanding how her past relationship was.I know its really random for me to give my story, but i was just thinking how alot of girls must go through similar stuff. Such as, guys always messing with them just to have sex, right? When i think about it, i think how common it must be, and it really pisses me off. Because the fact is I really love this girl, and sometimes i think it hurts me just as much to hear about her past relationship. I thought about how I'd like to go over to his house and give the guy a lesson (probably wouldn't do it, but just a thought!) Anyway, not that im a wuss (lol), but he joined a gang shortly after and i dont feel like being shot.I apologize for my ranting! To sum it all up, I guess it's just about how strong all you girls are; i'm guessing much stronger then guys when dealing with relationships. Much of you go through so much more then any other guy will, but you still pick yourself up to do more with your life instead of looking back and crying over your past.Heck, i know if i were a girl i'd cry about it for months and possibly years.But anyway, yeah... you girls are tough. hmmm im guessing i just wanted to type and get that out instead of this post any real relavince (sp)

i kinda went through a similar thing with my first bf, could kick myself for being so naive! but you get over it and as cliche as it sounds learn something from it

At the risk of being flamed, I think things like that happen because the girls are not strong.

Strength comes from surviving those circumstances. Picking up the pieces and moving on.

Well said.As for decdoy, I think he sounds like a young man of compassion and integrity. The kind who is in position to help this girl pick up and move on and develop that kind of strength.

Thanks for the replies guys! Especially yours damien; i take that one to heart.

I think your post is ignorant and one-sided. Not to say the guy wasnt a dick to that girl...but dammit man I think your stuck in the 1950's...as are many people on this board.Girls must be stronger than guys in relationaships? Utter rubbish. Lust and pain ignore gender boundries. on this board we hear about people of both sex's who suffer cos of those they've been in a relationship with.People need to stop living in this fantasy world in which girls are these hopeless damsels waiting to be used by evil villains or rescued by some paragon of chivalry.There are nice people and there are bad people. In both categories you will find both guys and girls. And some guys are strong and some are weak. Some girls are strong, and some are weak.

Yes, I think I'd much rather be living in the 50's then now. People seem so happy that those styles were hot :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:.

StrapingYoungLad, I was simply trying to say that I think more times girls are used then guys then vice versa. Yeah, everyone has their relationship problems and such. But I've always tend to think girls get used more then guys... especially when it comes to sex.

Well your wrong. Times have changed, we cant rely on the stereotypes of previous decades anymore.

yeah i see ur point, although i wasn't alive back in the 50's i do imagine somewhat what u said about girls being rescued and stuff.

Then you're saying girls use guys equally as much as guys use girls? Maybe when it comes to money (alot how society is bringing up more "gold diggers" now and days) but i definately couldn't see it for sex. I don't think there are any hard facts to point my or your statement in either direction; either way, I still respect your opinion.And I'm not relying on previous times. I'm refering to our present.

i dont know, you may be right, but the number of posts of young horny guys on this board indicating they would do anything for sex, i do still have my doubts.i think some girls can be weak, whatever, i know i have been naive in my past, i know i wont be like that again..

girls definitely use guys...sexually...manipulate...Trust me on this one.

The gold-digger thing goes both ways too nowadays! I know a girl who uses the fact that she has a car to get guys. I feel I can say all I've said with confidence because I know an inordinate amount more of girls than I do guys (comes from being hairdresser student). I have seen now how they talk without guys around (the fact that I'm guy was just gradually overlooked) and they really are just as nasty/nice as guys. You cant just go on a few stereotyped instances of guys using girls. You say your not relying on previous times but your views are shaped by the stereotypes of the past, everyones are until they are able to look past them and make a real judgement.One thing though I have noticed this is most liek how I describe it in the big cities (where I live now). In the smaller towns and cities (which lean slightly more to the "1950's" way of life) its a fair bit more traditional, but not far behind.As for horny guys coming on here saying stuff....well most these guys are 13/14 and closest they've got to pussy is they're clenched fist.

eveyone can be hurt, some people may be able to deal with it better than others but i definately wouldnt say that girls are way stronger than fellas

*claps*

Yah i agree.. for one it just depends on the person... and when i say this im not trying to be sexis at all but ive seen alot more girls break down and cry then guys.

The fact that girls cry more than guys has nothing to do with the emotions being felt. It just has to do with how -or if - those emotions are expressed.

I've been known to cry.

Most boys are like this, im much happier with my gf than I've ever been