At the movies.

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I'm going to ask this girl I like to the movies. I really like her, and I'm pretty sure she likes me, we flirt back and forth all the time. It's not asking her to a movie that's the complicated part, since that's easy enough. The problem is asking her out when we are there. What should I say?Any help is appreciated Thanks.

I dont really think you need to "ask her out" at the movies. When you ask her to the movies make it clear its a date. When you are the movies be urself and just be a gentleman. "asking a girl out" if a very immature way to do things. You dont really need to do that. If she knows its a date then ur covered

Yea, I was (of course) going to pick her up, pay, etc. All the usual stuff of a date. Hopefully she'll understand Thanks

Just a tip, don't just take it upon yourself to pay. Offer to pay, give her a choice, but make sure that she knows you are willing and able to do it and that its not too much trouble.

I'd say the opposite. If you asked her out, dont ask her if she wants to split/pay. If Im out with a guy and I feel I should pay, I will offer to do so. But if he hesitates when its time to pay, or asks me if I want to split, I am instantly put off.

Usually when we are going to pay i will test the situation to see what she does. If she doesnt seem to reach for her purse or nethign i will just pay. In the beginning generally you should pay, but i found as you get comfortable many women tend to start splitting the bills and stuff. But i wouldnt come out and ask her if she wanted me to pay. You gotta be smooth

I didn't say that he mentions splitting or having her pay. Just should she be reaching for the purse drop in politely that its ok if he pays, but don't force it on her. Some girls don't like the whole not paying thing, makes them feel awkward.

I agree.. I would be really putoff if someone asked me if i wanted him to pay or if we wanted to split. There would be the deciding factor that its not a date.. and I would feel obliged to pay.

i love how nowadays its womens rights. they want to work, they want this, they want that, BUT men still have to pay for everything. and if the man doesnt.....UGH i dont want to date him hes such a cheapass. im sorry but if women are making more money than me, WHY AM I PAYING FOR THEM

because people fear change.........

Most women arent making as much as men.

My point is that its all hypocritical. I dont mind paying for a woman, but when they EXPECT it, then i dont want to do it. Thats just selfish and rude

Well I think most women EXPECT a guy to pay if he asks her out. Its just common sense. And the opposite also holds true.

If YOU ask THEM out.. then YOU should be paying. That's why I dont ask guys out on dates.

haha are you serious?

lol, great minds........

Maybe I'm old fashioned.. but I'd never ask a guy out.

id ask a guy out if he is afraid. guys get afraid of rejection, so even if they like you they'll never ask cause they think you'll turn em down. I dont mind paying for things, and if women want equality, that means equality for everything. You cant pick and choose what you want to be equal with.

In reply to: if women want equality, that means equality for everything. You cant pick and choose what you want to be equal with. Exactly, they want their cake and to eat it too, after of course the guy picks them up, drives them to get the cake, pays for it, and feeds it to them

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