Is this normal and part of growing up?

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I have been reading post for months now and finally have a general question for you guys. Im 21 and I have noticed that i have an attraction or fetish for younger girls or even girls my age that could be mistaken for girls that are 14-17. I dont know if its normal, i always catch myself staring at the young tight body with a nice chest kind of girls. I dont know why, but now Ive been collecting pictures of amanda bynes, hilary duff,lindsay lohan and thinking they are so hot and sexy. Its weird though, if they are flat as a board, Im not attracted to them at all. Im current in a relationship with my girlfriend and we have been going out for 3 and half years and we have not yet have had sex and we are both virgins. Sometimes i have thoughts of breaking up with my girlfriend and playing the field with all kinds of sexual experiences that i could be missing out on, but this girl that i have now is the girl Im potentionally going to spend the rest of my life with. So Im kind of in a pickle. any other guys know how this feels.P.S. Im not a pedofile or anything like that.

Is the no sex thing because of religious beliefs?or is there another reason?Personally I think you're just horny and need release.

Looking at younger looking girls is fine, I am 26 and I catch myself doing it too (but not that young :P)... Everyone wants a young beautiful/handsome partner and there will always be someone else with an amazing body (they will always be younger) and part of the attraction, for men is that younger women have a maturity level equal to your own so you feel on the same playing field when it comes to social issues.As for you and your girlfriend. If its sex that you want, don't go play the field, talk to your girlfriend about sex. You both obviously care about each other if you've been together for 3.5 years. Unless your waiting for marriage, go for it

hilary duff and lindsay lohan are hot! lol and amanda is ok.

The brain is set up to consider attractive, girls who have just recently become suitable for child-bearing, because they are the ones who in caveman days were in need of a mate. In those days life was short, so you started on the business of reproduction as soon as you were able. It's only very recently that we have pushed that to later ages, and left horny boys and girls unmarried and childless.And, of course, people are maturing earlier because of better nutrition.If you have found someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, losing that just for a few wild meaningless flings would be very foolish (especially if they might land you in jail). A good relationship is worth much more than a few extra experiences.

Yea, I'm 15 and I definitely like to see 13 and 14 year old chicks... Younger girls, like ineligible so kindly stated, are set up in our minds to be the targets for our emotions. ANd no dude, I know youre probably thinking this, but you arent a pedifile. Pedifiles are the extremists and even if you were 40 and likeing 20 year old girls, I couldn't blame you.

Stick with your current relationship. You're very lucky to have someone like that.

I'm only 19 so its not really an issue, i can and do look at girls who may be 14, 15 whatever, its just natuaral. They may be pleasing to the eye but i wouldn't look at a girl in a atractive way until she'd at least finished school (16). The age group i tend to aim at is the 16-18 group but i would go up to 21ish depending on the girl, its more a case i know more fit 16-18 year olds though and most fit girls my age have gone to uni or whatever so there sparse.

The girls you are talking about being attracted to are sexually mature, so don't worry about it. The difference between your average 16 year old and your average 20 year old are dates on a calendar. I'm 31 and I think Hillary Duff and Lindsey Lohan are both a lot of fun to look at. That doesn't mean I'd ever sleep with a girl their age anymore. I would if I were still in high school of course, but I'm far too old for someone that age now. But that doesn't stop me from appreciating them as beautiful young WOMEN.Now if you had told me that you had a thing for 10 year olds or for girls who were undeveloped in general, then I'd tell you to go get some help. Being attracted to sexually mature females on the other hand is not something to be concerned about because its normal. Anyone who would try to tell you that you're not normal is suffering from psychobable stupefication. What I'm talking about is the hysterical nonsense that is derived from the sexual abuse recovery industry. Put simply there are people in this world who have been abused and whose objectivity when it comes to sexual matters has been compromised. They see anything that reminds them of their abuse, or the abuse of their patients in the case of therapists, as being the same thing as that abuse. Because this abuse is something they cannot mentally escape, it becomes the basis for how they interpret the world, which is why it is difficult and pointless to argue with one of them. They spend all day long rationalizing their twisted view of reality and there isn't anything you can say to them that is going to get through. The most you can do is call them on their bullshit so that others are not fooled by it.I would be far more concerned about your relationship with your girlfriend than your attraction to mature, but young, women. You say you've been together for three years and never had sex. That to me is worrysome. Unless there is a good (and rational) reason why this hasn't happened yet, then I'd take a good hard look at your relationship and especially at who each of you are as people. If one or both of you is avoiding sex, then that is a clear sign that other deeper problems exist. Now I'm not one of those people who thinks that dating equals automatic sex, but if two people are in a committed romatic relationship for an extended period, and nature does not take its course, then there is something wrong somewhere. Part of romantic love is the overwhelming desire to make love, and I'm not talking about fucking here. I'm talking about making love. If you don't know the difference then I'm not sure I can explain it to you. Only you know the reason why the two of you are celibate, and so only you can answer the question of whether that reason is the sign of a serious problem.

P.S. At 21 you ARE grown up.

"hilary duff and lindsay lohan are hot! lol and amanda is ok."I saw Matchstick Men and Alison Lohman was way hot, however she was playing a 14 year old. I felt a little weird about it until I realized she was in her early 20s when she made that film.Girls in the early/mid teens sure don't look the same as when I was that age. I do notice them sometimes. I can't help it. I like to look at attractive women, but it does bother me a little bit that some of these younger girls are wearing clothes that girls that age shouldn't be wearing. I guess some parents don't seem to care what their kids look like when they go out in public.

In reply to: "hilary duff and lindsay lohan are hot! lol and amanda is ok." u know i forgot i had posted that lol and u know i think all 3 are older than me. lol In reply to: I guess some parents don't seem to care what their kids look like when they go out in public. mine are not one of those some lol. you know how some guys were there jeans or pants or whatever down below there ass. my dad would kill me if he saw me wear my pants like that. lol wuts funny is i wouldn't ever wear it. i would feel like grosss and that my pants were falling off.

Yeah, it's totally normal. These young girls are very attractive, and are budding into young women. Today it seems as though they are doing so extremely early. I see many 13 year olds with larger breasts than they did when I was in grade 8. They still look as hot to me today as they did when I was their age. The big difference is now I only look. If someone was to go further, then that would be wrong.

Sorry guys I think it's sick. You can use whatever excuses you like but to actually be turned on by a 14 or 15 year old is gross. There is a term for men that have sex with teens. I forget what its call. It's not a pedophile, but it's similar. I'm cool with just about any kind of sex and fantasy, but that not one of them.

is it ok if i`m 15 ? =))))

Yes of course. lol It's grown men checking out young girls I have an issue with.

Ya but a look and a thought are neither crimes nor all that unusual. Simpleguy seems to be noticing young woman rather than girls. Ineligible had a pretty good point on the evolutionary view too.I look at the high school lasses in the mall too. I would also like to kill all pedophiles with my bare hands. I don’t think those two feelings are incongruous. Simpleguy, you have an awesome relationship there, try not to blow it. We all have physical needs though, that’s nature. Talk to her about it. This might not be for you (it isn’t for me, before you ask) but there is an old school tradition of men visiting prostitutes because they love and respect their wives too much to ask them to fulfill their needs. It’s old fashioned and I don’t agree with the sentiment but it’s something to consider. Please don’t hack on me for that, it’s just a bit of thinking out loud.

Dress it up however you like. But what you're doing is looking at a 14 or 15 y/o in a sexual manner. That's like saying its okay to think about a baby and get off. You aren't actually doing anything. But it doesn't make it any less disgusting. This is something that really creeps the hell out of me. I would like to point out that both my first and current husbands did not find young girls attractive. I don't think I could love a man that did. Plus why stop at 14 why not 12? I fully passed as an adult at 12. I bought my step dad cigarettes and beer. I wore a 32B bra and fully had hips. So would you have liked me too? Where do you draw the line? You know what I'm done with this topic. You can all tell yourselves its okay if she looks like she might be older but that fact remains what you like is that she isn't. And your evolutionary theory is nothing more than a cop out.

I understand where you’re coming from. It seems between the issues of earlier maturity and the sexualisation of young women in the media, it gets harder and harder to see the difference between 12 and 18.I’m only admitting to noticing beauty. If you knew me, “creepy” would probably be the last thing you’d think. I guess I did come off sounding a bit like a dirty old man, sorry.

There is a big difference between noticing a female and thinking about someone you know is under age and finding that arousing. I saw what I thought was woman and commented on her cuteness. My son then informed me that she went to his school. My son is in 4th grade so she couldn't have been more than a 6th grader. And I felt sick to my stomach. So see, I too can mistake a younger girl for older. That isn’t the point. It’s knowing the girl is young and finding her attractive. As many men do. And not just in our county, and period of time. But that doesn’t make it right or even okay.