I'm 35.That rattle, that shudder, that strange feeling in your gut when you see someone you're perfectly attracted to, well- I'm pretty sure you take it with you to your grave.Older people just learn not to make monkey sounds and faces when it happens.I haven't, yet.And 17 year old girls never stop looking hot. It's when they open their mouth that the fantasy ends... don't sweat thinking they are hot. Just know better than to chase them.
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Is this normal and part of growing up?
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To me a 17 yr old would be in a gray area. They are old enough to have sexual urges and ideas of their own and old enough to deal with them. However they are still young enough to be manipulated easily by an adult and may not be mature enough to ward off advances of someone who is using her ill.
Pedophiles don't just jump to the chase. They work slowly. First they may touch you somewhere that isn't off limits then move closer to a place that is, after much time they may make a move. They push a child's limits in a way that the child may not see where to draw a line clearly. They spend a lot of time and effort on working the child down. They are very manipulative people. -
there's a world of difference between thinking 17 year olds are hot and doing something about it. Pedophiles are people who want to have sex with children. It seems a lot like the term is flung around a lot in reference to people who want to have sex with those who have hit puberty but are not sexually mature, and of course every culture sets a different age level for that.I'm not here to paint a pretty picture of the situation, but an over-developed 13 year old who can easily be mistaken for a 20-year old giving men erections as she walks down the street is no crime. Most of the time it's "wow, look at her" and then she's gone. If they knew how old she was the excitement would largely switch to confusion: No way!My personal cut off for 'someone I might be interested in' is about 25- younger than that and you can't even really carry on a conversation a lot of the time- the generational/cultural difference it too high.And that sick sociopath you described in your message, hopefully someone catches them and kicks the shit out of them. I believe in fair treatment of most people, but racists and pedophiles have a hard lesson to learn, and if it takes a boot in the face, well, so be it.I had my own encounter with a pedophile when I was in 6th grade. The guy lived down the street a bit, and was always nice and kids would hang out there sometimes. When he tried something I just got up and left. The funny thing is even at that age I knew what was going on and wasn't scared. I guess I was lucky, but in hindsight there were probably other kids who were not so- it never occured to me until years later that by saying something about it I might have saved some other kid some sweat. I was only a kid, I guess.
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I notice older guys looking at me all the time, i hate to say it but girls like me sometimes are trying to get that attention. Simpleguy... its alright and normal i think. i know your just trying to figure out if your like every other guy and you are.lindsay
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In my personal opinon (not that you want it-but hey, I'm giving it anyway ^^) I think that it is a little wrong. Of course that could be because I've had a rough background myself, but I don't think that 21 y/o men should be intertaining thoughts of the sexual nature when looking at 14 or 16 y/o girls. Granted their bodies may be mature, but they are still children, and for an older man to get a 'hard on' while looking at these girls, it's just sick in my opinon. It'd be alright if you where 17 or 18, maybe even younger, but not when you are older. I'm 18 myself, and I have younger male friends (14, 15, a little older) who are a fairly good looking young men, but thinking of them on the sexual level is just wrong to me. Now about your girlfriend, don't throw what you have away. I think that it's amazing that you have found someone who is willing to wait (for you), and wants that first time to be with you. You don't find that very often (you just don't know how lucky you are). Stick with it, and talk to her, tell her how you feel and if you know that you guys will be together for the rest of your lives, and if you both decide to 'make love' then go for it. But if have any doubt about you two lasting, then don't do anything that you or her will regret later on in life. Now I've put my two cents in, you can either choose to listen to me or not (but hey, everyone is intitled to their own opinon, and everyone has the right to voice them and I always choose to do so ^^) that's up to you.