What to do?

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating each other for just over seven months now. everything is great except for one problem....my dad! when i told him he was fine and then i said i was goin round my boyfriends house one night and he totally flipped. I dont want to cause any arguements in the house because its only just got back to normal (after 4months), so instead of saying im going round my boyfriends i say im going to friends or we just dont see each other and its absolutely killing me. i cant keep cancelling on my boyfriend when he asks me to come round but i cant keep lying either. i dont know what to do! my boyfriend says its fine and that hes there for me no matter what and he'll never finish with me but i know it bothers him.any advice people i will be really grateful...x

How old are you?In theory you should always be honest with your parents. They only want whats best for you, but that doesnt necessarily mean they always know what that is.

im 20 years old and im at university and he seems to think im going to get pregnant and drop out n its brought shame 2 the him and if the other side of the family that we dont talk to find out they're gonna think hes failed in some way. he even went as far as to say is that it would be my fault if there was a rift in the household. im jus really stuck

In my opinion, you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions. I would say you should try talking to your dad, but he seems-no offense- like an asshole. I could understand if you were a teenager, but at 20 years old? He has to learn to let go sometime. Its a good idea to be honest, so weigh your options. If you decide its too risky to tell him the truth, I would lie about where you are and who you are with.

no offence taken. im jus sick and tired with having to lie all the time or not getting to see my boyfriend unless its at work. im scared to talk to in case it causes another arguement i get accused of breaking the family up again. i have the greatest boyfriend thou hes stood by me for seven months and i just worry im gonna loose him because of my dad. but ill try talking to him

Question: Is my dad right and should I finish universtiy before starting to have boyfriends or is he jus being way too over protective? Opinions wanted....x

Your dad is not right, he is behaving like an idiot. Your 20! You can do aaaaaanything you choose now, you life is 100% yours, not his. I think maybe you really NEED to argue with him, make it known you want take that kind of silliness from him. Your dad has no right to run your life.

the one thing I will say is. If you do get a bf remember that school comes first, other than that go get a bf, there are tons of great people to meet, so get out there. (Just be smart about it)

I think strappingyounglad could be right maybe i just need to argue it out with him. Im doing so well in university better than i expected anyway and he just doesnt seem to take that into account. My boyfriends even said if he felt that he felt he was coming before my university work he would tell me!! if anyone's got any more advice or opinions dont hesistate to say anything i wont take any offence lol!thanks...x