Complicated Situation

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Okay so, Im in a new relationship, and we've only been going out for a week or so, and he's on a trip to russia for a few weeks. He's a great guy, a little neourtic (but who isnt) and very exciting. He also has my sense of adventure, and wants to do just as many crazy things like i do. Then, four days ago, I start talking to this amazing guy and, I've never talked to anyone like him. He is so honest, and caring, and nice. And we have a hundred things in common, I cant help but be completely attracted to him, he is just Gah! Incredible.However, He might be moving further away from me and well, after I finish college I hope to be leaving the country for a job. The first guy is portable and can really go anywhere, but this guy, He is willing to leave (and that is beyond incredible) but, I would feel incredibly guilty for letting him just form to fit my needs, because It isnt fair for him..So come on now, tell me how screwed I am.

TAKE THEM BOTH!! If Mr.Incredible is willing to leave with you then I think your onto a winner! I'm sure his incredibleness will easily surpass your guilt. Poor luck for the other chap though.On the other hand you havnt known either of them for very long, I you sure you'd want to live with either of them? Not something I have any experience of so I'd like to know your thoughts to that question. Sound like great guys though.

lmao thats the problem. if atleast one was horrible this would be easy! bangs head on wall I think the universe hates me lol

Hey there cutie. Honestly I would date them both for a while and get to know them both better. I wouldn't rush into anything until you know your true compatibility.I know not much and of answer, but it’s my best advice.hug

I think you might be thinking tooo far into the future. You've only been dating/talking to these guys for a matter of days. I would leave my options open, not just regarding the two current guys, but to any others that might come along.

Hmm.. I'd say stick to the guy you're with.. like you said hes open to moving out of the country when you're done school In reply to: He also has my sense of adventure, and wants to do just as many crazy things like i do. Awesome and RARE!!

The situation (i really shouldnt call it that) has been dealt with hugs thanks guys.

Good good.. you're lucky it got dealt with so fast.. most people I know waited weeks to decide! Alot of emotional stress

I just wish i didnt feel so awful

As long as it's the best choice for you, than there should be anything to feel awful about.

You're an awesome person sweets, whom ever you picked is a very lucky person.

I agree with ME_MYSELF_AND_I regarding"I think you might be thinking tooo far into the future"You need to be thinking about now... and right now it seems 'incredible' guy is the one you should be exploring. These are the guys that girls kick themselves later for passing up...I don't know what you decided, but time will show the truth. That's for sure.

Well you made your choice right? You must have had something to make you pick that way.. don't worry about it.

Having been through something similar, I'd like to know how you sorted it ... would it be rude to ask?Either way, you shouldn't feel awful, after all, it's your life.

i went with the most logical choice, I knew matt (the first guy) longer (ive known him for..8 months), Matt and I get along great, I dont like just abandoning relationships cause someone else comes along, its not right, matt and i have much of the same goals in life, we see eachother all the time, and, matt helped me thru something awful.

Sounds like you made the right choice sweetie.

I hope I did, but you never know right?

Very true, life can give us weird turns.Just give yourself credit and take it day by day. What more can anyone ask?