Alright, here's the story. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago. Broke up because she had no time for a relationship. So we decided to be "friends".. yah ok. Well anyway, I called her a couple times to see how she was, she never bothered calling me, so I thought 'screw it, if we're going to be friends, i'm not going to be the one makin all the calls' so I stop contacting her (I heard about this no contact thing). I'll admit, I'm not over her. But here comes my big problem.We work together, so sometimes I see her. But when I see her, she acts so cold towards me. She barely talks to me. I say hi and bye, I get no reply. She acts as if I'm not even there.... some friend. I've done nothing to her. Nothing to make her angry or upset. She has no reason to act this way with me. So why does she? Any ideas?
So cold, so quickly.
nobody really wants to remain friends afterwards, it's an akward situation, and sounds normal to me
Just give it some time. She's probably still trying to deal. I know what you're probably thinking, "It's been a month. How long does it take?" The answer to your question is: as long as she needs to comfortable with just being friends. Being in a relationship and then breaking up and deciding to be friends isn't just "okay we broke up...what are you doing this weekend?" There's always a transitional phase that has to happen for both parties to be comfortable around the other and sometimes that phase is longer than others. So like I said, just give her some time.
I have to say that I don't quite agree with Amanda, me and my boyfriend broke up with each other and we have remained quite good friends, from almost immediately afterwards (we were luck in that fact.)
However I think that it all depends on who ended the relationship and who said that you should be friends.
One of the best ways to brake the ice might be to take some friends from work out some where and invite her along as well, to show that there are no hard feelings, but don't be put of if she doesn't leap at the chance!
Mostly give her time and space to adjust or to get over the feelings (possibility bitter ones) that she has for you.
I agree with Amanda to a point and disagree with Cenfath.She is cold and acting in a rather harsh manner...I mean not even acknowledging your presences is just plain rude. She is a bitch. She is much like my ex-girlfriend from years back. We ended up in the same course at school for a semester and her sole drive was to insult and demean me any chance she got (despite our break-up being civil and without any anger but ill-feelings on both sides).....so bascially she knows nothing about me but thought she would insult me or apply terms to me that don't fit at all.On the other hand when I became serious and sought relations with a good friend things didn't work out and despite the frustrations we're still very good friends today, although it still bothers me heh.Depends on the girl and circumstances of the break-up. To be honest I'd say move on bro, sorry to say it...I know it is never something you want to here but it's for the best man. I can tell she's bitter and acting rather immature about it, like seriously if she seriously wanted to truly be your friend she would ask for space or at the very least acknowledge the fact you exsist when you try to simply say hi to her. Best of luck in future endeavors.