I'm new. Been looking at other posts and this place looks like I could get some advice.
So here it is........
I have gone through my entire school life without really going out or even getting a chance with any girl. I am in college (I'm a brit so that means year 12/13). That puts me at 17
Now there is this girl who I like who actually likes me back. She told me. I have liked her for a while and I am amazed that someone I like actually likes me back.
But there is a problem.
She has a boyfriend. Because of this, when I began to like her before this (bout half a year ago) I thought, "you have no chance anyway, and its not right to nick a girl", so I thought I won't try anything. But since she says she likes me and is getting bored with her original boyfriend, I dunno.
They have been going out for a while now. Only problem is that she still likes him. I want to go out with her but she doesn't know whether to go out with me or stay with him.
Lots of people like him so I will be bastard of the century if she does split up with him for me.
Is doing this sort of thing really out of order.
I am going to try to meet up with her sometime soon so we can get to know each other better and so she can make the right decision for her.
I don't want to pressure her into any decision or make her do any knee-jerk decision.
I still really want to go out with her, but I really am not sure what I should do.
Any advice, comments, insults, solutions would be greatly appreciated
The thing is i really do want her to make the right decision for her even if it does mean dropping me. I don't want her to be thinking 1 week on "i wish i was still with (let just call him Y)".
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Woohoo......ahh crap
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Yeah go for it, will be fun. Hey look if she says she will go out with you instead of him, says he should dump him and then just leave it a week to announce that the two of you are an item.
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Yeah i thought about doing that. But this guy, what did i call him, Y or something. Is bright enough to work it out. He will know that she would have dumped him for me. Hes a nice guy, but i can tell he will prob try and take a swing at me. Fair enough i think.i'll be finding out this week what is going on so. i guess i will just have to let it go the way it goes. I still want opinions about my prob.
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Okay here is my piece of advice. Do not do what you want or what would make you happy. Do what is going to make her happy, so if she is okay with it and truly likes you go for it.