For starters it's no secret in my family that my father's an alcoholic, as it was the main factor for his divorces from my mother and step-mother. Me and my brother have discussed this problem with him many times and I know he is still getting help for it, but of course we know that he still does drink on occasion. He always tells us it's okay to be completely honest with him about this. So today I was...he told me to me to call him tonight after American Idol so I did. We started talking about the show and I began to sense that he was drunk, because he was not acting like himself at all, and it's just been so many years of this that I of course know exactly what he's like when he's like this. So I told him not to get mad at me and he agreed. So I asked "are you drunk?" he of course denied it even though I know for a fact he is. He got all mad at me and started telling me that I have no right to be asking him that etc, and basically turned the whole thing on me and ended up making me feel like I should be the one whose embarrassed and eventually hung up on me. My mom says I had every right to know and that I did the right thing. Yet I still feel like S***. Do you think it was wrong of me to ask him?...Sorry this turned out too be so lengthy
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Question concerning me and my Dad.
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no you did the right thing. alcoholics deny deny deny. You do have a right to know and I'm very sorry about what happend.
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Bless your heart. I can't imagine what it would be like to have to deal with that.You did the right thing. And it is quite normal and quite rational for you to feel badly. I imagine you are probably hurt by that sort of thing - quite often. Your mom is definitely right. And it sounds like when your dad is sober he is very understanding and accomodating. You may be called on sometime soon to make some tough decisions around your dad. I don't mean to cut him off or anything. But you don't want to enable him by acting like it doesn't matter to you. Wait til he's sober and then have it out with him.Or...maybe some folks here who have actually dealt with alcoholic parents can say things wiser and more helpful than I can.
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Raises handMy father is an alcoholic, and I know exactly what you're going through. I was in a similar situation where I asked my dad if he was drunk and he got very upset. So upset that he put me out of the house. The difference between our two stories is that my dad isnt even seeking help. But you were completely justified in asking him if he was drunk or not. Its soo complicated living with an alcoholic. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him, for fear that whatever I do will be brought back up when hes drunk. But with enough of my problems. Your mom was right. Dont feel bad
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I'm happy I don't have to live with him. Atleast when he and my mother were together he wasn't around much. I love him but that would've driven me insane. He's improved a lot in the last couple years but it still happens from time to time. Things used to be way worse.