Well I recently started dating a girl I've known for about two years now. Things are going good, I can make her happy, and I think she really likes me. However, knowing her for so long, also means I know her history, I know what's she's been through and trust me, it's alot. Ok so she is a complete and utter pessimist. She believes that positive thinking will only end up getting her hurt. I guess the fact that she just whent through two relatively abusive relationships that ended abruptly are to blame. The big problem comes from her first serious relationship, she got pregnant, and decided that it was best to have an abortion, she took a pill and that was that. But I don't think she ever let it go, and I think it's eating away at her. We were out on a date the other day, and everything was going real good, and she had this sudden mood swing, she told me "you know, I would be 5 months pregnant right now", I asked her if she wanted the baby, and she didn't reply. She's not a depressed person it would seem, she just has a very pessimistic outlook on life. And I'm really afraid that the abortion got to her head, I fear that she wanted the baby, but under force from her boyfriend and mother, she gave it up, and I'm really afraid of what that means for us. I want to understand how I should deal with this situation, I just want her to wake up, forget the past, and get on with life.
Me, my girlfriend, and her problems
hopefully she isn't a young girl. I think she's just going through a really hard time right now. It's always going to be stuck in her mind. It's hard to forget something like that. What you're doing so far is great. Just be there for her. If she sees how much you care there's no way she would break it off. Just console her and bare with her during the mood swings. Mood swings happen almost all the time. But don't worry about it. You're doing great so far.
She's a young girl, I'm 17 and she's 16.