My cousin is 25 he has muscular dystrophy and even though i have always known since i was a small child he recently has really deteriorated and my mum has said that he might not be around for much longer.. as i said i have always known he was sick but i think just very recently hit me how seriously ill he is ....
we moved over seas last year and i have not seen my cousin in .. 7 /8 months because i just cant get home and i am soo afraid that i will not get to say goodbye to him .. me and him are very close and although i talk to him i really miss not being able to see him and it would really kill me to not be able to say good-bye
ok .. now for the problem ..i sit my exams very soon and this means i cant just go home to see him due to the 13+ hour flight... i love him very much but this is really killing me and although my parents know we are close their is a really closeness between us that i will not be able to re-place i just don't know what to do
in some ways i feel really guilty because he was their for me and i feel in a way like i am letting him down
i just have no clue what to do :'( :confused: :frowning:
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It isn't really your fault that you have exams, so no need to feel guilty about that. Is it completely impossible that you would be able to visit him for a couple of days even? it maybe a 13 hour flight, but it will be worth taking the time if possible to go and see him.
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my exams begin and my parents are quite strict in the fact that they want me to do well and expect me too i really want to come back as u say just for a few days but as every day draws to a close it is an ever diminshing hope
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awww honey, it must be so hard for you. How about spending some time on the phone with him, and telling him exactly how you feel and how much you would love to be there with and for him......it can't hurt and might make both of you feel better cuddles
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even though i love to talk with him on the phone it still doesnt come close to seeing him i just feel like .. i mean he is only 25 i just cant really get myself around the fact that he is dying at such a young age i guess...?( if that makes sense )this is one of those reasons i really wish we did not live so far away
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**I am in kinda the same situation as you, my father in law is dying of lung cancer, we live the other side of the country from them, and it was really getting to me, its horrible being so far away and brings with it its own stresses. In one way i am glad im away, i don't want to see him deteriorate, but then i would like to spend time with him before the inevitable happens.
And yes it does make sense that you can't get your head around someone so young dying, its hard when anyone dies but when they are so young with their life ahead of them, it just seems to much worse and so unfair! **
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mm he is my closest cousin and he was really their for me more than anything i just hope he will be their for a long time but especially till when i go back in summer even if i just get a little time with him its still precious just the samemm angelwitch i agree it was bad enough when he was a few hours car ride away now its about a 15/16 hour trip all together if i want to see him
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Wow, that sucks.Know what? I bet your cousing is feeling the same way about you right now. Sounds like you guys have a great relationship. Will you be able to go visit him after exams?Not to get all freaky religious or anything, but I just prayed a quick prayer for you that you would be able to visit soon and that it would be an amazing time with your cousin. Hope you don't mind.
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i am a christian and yes i prey for him everyday..yeah i shall be back home in july but i dont know why one month doesnt seem enough but i will make the most of it .. i have no choice...i think that is why it is killing me so much to know that i cant be their