What would you do if you were me?

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I am living in the dormintory of my university. I live with a roommate and we never discuss issues such as masturbation or sex.However, sometimes I have wet dreams and in the next morning I do not want anyone (probably my roommate) to know that I had a wet dreams and cum in my underwear. Therefore, if I go to take a shower, he may think I have masturbated or have had a wet dream because I take shower at night, not in the morning.I don't want to make him misunderstand that I masturbate with his presence in our room and I don't want him to know that I have had a wet dream.So, what would you do if you were me?OR are there anyone living with a roommate and think in the same way as I do?

why are you so scared of him knowing that you had a wet dream but, its normal.

I understand your hesitation to discuss masturbation with your roommate and it is certainly your right not to. However, one thing I've learned is that freedom comes through being open, not trying to hide things. I'm not saying you should talk about jacking off and stuff. I'm just saying that if you weren't so afraid of him knowing you had wet dreams, you would feel a lot more at ease. Hiding things takes a lot of energy.Maybe the next time it happens you could simply grin and say "Humph...had a little visitor last night." He'll know what you mean. You won't have to hide it. And will thank you cause now he has the freedom to speak about what he's been spending a lot of energy trying to hide.

I agree with Damien.One thing I would like to add... do you think your roommate doesn't masturbate? Trust me, he does. It's a normal male function and I bet you more than anything you roommate a) subconsciously knows you masturbate and doesn’t even care and B) Doesn't even think twice about when you shower.Don't over think the situation trust me.

After submitting the post and reading the replies of you all, again I thought about what I am trying to hide, and found that... there's nothing for me to be ashamed of! :open_mouth: It's just a normal thing for every man in this world.
Maybe I have been trying not to discuss something private with others.

Thank you all! And Damien you are right.
I think my roommate and I will have more freedom to talk about what we have been trying to hide. :smile:

As you hvae just mentioned you have nothing to really hide at all. Most guys would jo somtime in there life and alot of guys do get wet dreams as well. Both are natural and nothing to be ashamed of i think.I mean if you share a room how do you get on when you want to get changed and stuff - or do u not get naked in front of each other. Or when u wake up with the old morning wood etc - what do you do then? As you and Damien have said getting this out in the open might do your freindship alot of good - but i think it could be inportant to chose the timing correctly as to not to offend your roommie as well.

Let's not forget that there is probably a cultural difference here. The Chinese tradition is much more reticent than the Western, especially the American tradition.clarkson, if you find you can't bring it up, you could change your normal practice from showering in the evening to showering in the morning, so then it wouldn't be obvious.

I got your point, stiffy.a good timing is really crucial.btw, my roommate and I still get on well and we never get fully naked in front of each other. We get changed but only the T-shirts, trousers. We never change our underwear in the room, that's why.Ineligible, you are right. The Chinese culture (I am a Chinese) and tradition is kind of reticent than the American tradition, but I think I can still try not to hide it as my roommate and I are already adult. I am confident that... if I just take a shower in the morning sometimes, it won't be too extraordinary to him.And thanks for your advice, guys!

Hi agianIf you guys wont even change underwear in front of each other then i think that maybe you should sit down and have a talk. I know we are all differnet and some cultures are more modist than others but if you cant get dressed in the morning with your roomie in the room you might have bigger issues if you bring up the topic of wet dreams or masturbation.And if you do change to the morning shower I don't think your rommie would think anything was wrong or that you were trying to cover somthing up. It is only a shower after all. IF your roomie does ask just invent some reason as to why u have changed to the morning shower.

I think maybe I said something not clear enough which caused confusion.There is only a bathroom on a floor of my dormitory. My roommate and I live in a room with only two beds, two wardrobes, and two desks.We DO change clothes in the same room, but we never change or put off our underwear in the room because we need not change it unless we take a shower in the bathroom. That's why I wrote "we never get fully naked in front of each other. We get changed but only the T-shirts, trousers. We never change our underwear in the room".I am not sure whether you thought my roommate and I never change clothes in front of each other. If I get you wrong, please tell me because I am afraid I misunderstand your reply.