Hello everyone. I wanted to get the opinion of females mostly, but I dont object to any males who reply to this. I believe I am attractive, and have a good personality, it is what my friends say. But beyond that, I am quite self-conscious about 2 things concering my body. My sister and I both have this problem. Tanning. We are both very pale. I was thinking it could be genetic, and if it was, then I should not worry about it, correct? I am not albino by any means, if anyone is thinking. My arms are tan, and my face is, but my legs, thighs, upper-arms, and shoulders are pale. I've been to the beach many times during summers to try and fix this problem, but it seems that I cant tan there. Secondly, I have a lot of body hair. The simple solution would just to to shave, but this takes a while, and it grows back very quickly. I do shave certain areas so they look neat...but, here is my question that relates to these two problems.Are these "Problems" just my being overly concerned over how my body is, or will this be a problem to my relationships. This is why I wanted comments from females. Some background info: I am not a virgin, so people have obviously seen me nude. I am not shy until it comes to talking about something such as this. This may not be a big deal to some people, but I worry my ass off over what a girl I'm dating will think of me when she sees me nude. I understand that some girls will find paleness and body hair a turn off, and that is ok. But in the long run, is this something I should worry about, or could this possibly be a non-issue with a lot of girls?
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Self-conscious
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to be honest hon, if a girl is ready to go to bed with you, then it shouldn't be an issue. I think this is your insecurity, you 're not a virgin so obviously the girl/s didn't mind..........you sound like a nice guy, I wouldn't get hung up on something that I dont' think others will feel is a big thing.
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Thank you angel. I've been trying for a while to convince myself it's a not a big deal.
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**You're so welcome hon \*hugs\* **
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First off let me say, everyone is a little self concious so don't get melodramatic about the whole thing.If your girl really loves you she won't care about that stuff. If she does she is shallow and you shouldn't be dating someone like that.Good luck with this whole situation, I wish the best for you.
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Hey hun there isn't anything wrong with you!!If it bothers you that much maybe you can go see a doctor and see what he has to say.
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Hey cool! We can form a club! I'm pale and hairy too. It's never really bothered me. Unless you're trying to fit into that surfer/beachbum mould, there isn't really anything unattractive with being pale and hairy.
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I'm very pale and don't have to much hair (I'm only 14), can I still join?
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**Im pale, but not really hair, but im joining so you can too LOL ** :grin:
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Haha, I'm glad to hear your similar with me in that situation, and that you dont mind it at all. I like the pale part, I really dont mind that as much as how the hair looks against the pale skin. But, thanks to you all, I am slowly improving my outlook on this and beginning to think of this as just a part of me, and no problem what-so-ever. Thank you all again.