ERGGHH!!!!!!!!!!!

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Okay I have a a clique which is a group of friends who always hang out... So its Me, Andrew, Joey and Lets call the last one john....Lately John has been swearing and hanging out with, shall we say not so nice people....He has a best friend called... lets Call him Carl..Carl is an idiot and also likes to bully me and Joey.So Me and Andrew 100% hate Carl. We don't say that but we always ditch John if Carl's around.Whats happening to John and why does he hang with these bad folks? We don't want to disrespect Johns choice of friends... but its been us 4 for 4 years now..

Maybe he realised that cliques are childish and unsocial. He decided to talk to other people that he likes and he won't let your opinion of them decide who he hangs out with.

People change. They are especially likely to change around 12 to mid-teens. Very often old friendships drift apart and new friendships are formed. John may be making some bad choices - his parents may well be worried too - but they are his choices and there's not much you can do; except be there if he decides himself that he's done the wrong thing.

That was rude and uncalled for. These kids seem a bad influence is what i men't...

actually it's not rude it's the truth. cliques are unsocial and can be offensive to others. Did you try accepting the other guy? Hanging with him? Trying to get along? If not there's why he doesn't like you. Hate isn't the way to go. If so then talk to your friend and let him know what's up.

You yourself are a bad influence on him. You are complaining about him leaving your group. What is wrong with hanging out with other people? They may not be the best people to be friends with in your opinion but it is his choice. If he gets on well with them and he is happy then what concern is it of yours?

i agree with bob theres nothing wrong with him wanting to meet new people

All I ment was... Forget it... Carl is going downhill. Swearing, Hanging out with bad kids... Can an Admin close this? I wanted to know why Bob does all this not be flamed.

Do you have a problem with my view on the situation? I already told you the same thing as everyone else is saying. Your friend is growing up, he wants to hang around with other people, they might not be the nicest people in your books but he likes them and thats his decision. If it has been just the four of you for ages then he is well entitled to go find other friends as well.

And there is no reason to ask an mod to close this, it will fade away along with the hundreds of threads before it.

So basicallly you just want folks to post here saying how horrible Johnny and his friends are and how much of a jerk he is for deserting you and how he should come back so you can continue to have the safe little clique you've had for years.Yeah...not gonna happen...And that's not what you really need anyway. You need to understand what Bob is trying to tell you. What you're experiencing is normal. We've all gone through it. It's part of growing up. And it won't be the last time you see a close friend fade off into the distance like a soft-spoken cowboy at the end of a cheesy western. But what you have now is an opportunity to get on with it. Your little bubble has been popped. That's good cause now you can move out of your bubble - take your other buddies with you if you want - but get out of the bubble and meet new people and experience new things.A life without new people and new things is a prison.

That clears things up. I get it now. Thanks! I am serious too. Thanks for clearing my crap up

We all got crap.Maybe next time you can clean my poo.

Definately