is there any way to help"stretch" me out before sex? im really tight and my boyfriend can only get 1/2 of his finger in before im in alot of pain. even when i tried to use tampons, i almost passed out from the pain. is there anything i can do loosen me out so i dont cry during sex?
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Pain....
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lots of foreplay, use a lubricant
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do it slowly by yourself. (i prefer to do it myself so i know IM the one making myself hurt, not my boyfriend) you just need to start by trying to get one finger in, and slowly progress, its a pain in the ass, but eventually itll work. i went from fitting one finger barely to a 6 inch girth dildo. you'll make it.
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hey, i was going through the exact same thing you're going through now about a few weeks ago. i was going all paranoid about not being able to have sex but then i finally lost it! yes, it's such a good relief. anyway, u will not pass out from the pain. you're over reacting. believe me, i was too! do u tell him to stop (because of the pain u feel) before he even gets his whole one finger in your vagina? because that could be the problem. u have to just bare with the pain and trust him and let him continue. believe me, i went through the exact same thing and mainly the problem was because i told him to stop when i began to feel the pain and because he cares so much he couldnt go on with it after seeing the painful look on my face.
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we've been trying slowly to stretch me out i think its working. now he can get a whole finger in with much less pain for me. we're just gonna keep doing that until i get really comfortable. thx for all ur help guys!
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yay! it's good to hear that you're able to fit one whole finger now. now, u should proceed to two whole fingers. ( two fingers is normally close to the width of the average penis so if u can get the two fingers in then your bf's penis should be able to go in as well.) that's what my bf did. and this hurt me a lot. but let him do it despite the pain. yell if u have to! my bf was able to get in with his two fingers. after this he proceeded to insert his penis inside me. and that wasnt too bad. it was more of a real sore discomfort. but for me, it was no where as bad as when he inserted his two fingers. so, all i can say is really try it. it starts out bad but hopefully it'll get good for u. best of luck!!