So Im 23 and ever since the begining of the semester Ive been digging this one girl that 18...but recently I found out she is engaged! I personally think that is nuts, but then again who knows, maybe you really can be in love that much at 18 to know that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Me personally, even at this age, it would take a lot of thinking before Id make that leap. In any case I know no one is going to tell me to continue to pursue this as I already know it wouldn't be a smart thign to do. However, I do want to be her friend. She told me she has no friends and she only works and hangs out with her boyfriend sometimes, although when they do hang out he plays video games most of the time. She seemed a little bummed when she told me that and it got me thinking. She seems to be an open book in general and I like that about her. She doesnt hesistate to say something that might be very personal and we did have a convo a couple of days ago and I learned a lot about her. So yea I was thinking about inviting her and her boyfriend out with some of my friends sometime. Is that wrong? I dont think it is. However, just dont want to come off as though Im looking to try to hook up with her because I know the class sees me talking to her and everyone makes it out that Im trying to make a pass on her and their reactions dont go unnoticed by her. So yea. Thats my story any adivce. Im thinking about just being blunt. Like saying "Hey, I been thinking about how you said you really didnt have many friends and stuff alogn with how your boyfriend plays on the comp a lot and with that known from what Ive gotten to know about you so far, you seem like a pretty cool person to me in my book. Therefore I figured I only have 2 weeks before the semester is over thus leaving me with only 2 weeks to ask you if you wanted to hang out sometime with some of my other friends (she knows a couple of them cause they are in our class), your boyfriend is welcome to come along too of course. Im not sure how that comes off with how the class acts and shit when were talking, but I just wanted to know it isnt even like that. I just thought it would be pretty cool to hang out with yah sometime after class is let out for the summer." Yea know something like that. Blah! I dont know, any adivce?
I like an Engaged Girl!
Hey man welcome back! I havnt seen you much atall active in ages!Ya dont have be so overblown about asking her to hang out with yer buddies, it will seem like your up to something. Just go about it more casually. Simply ask her if she would like to hang out with the lot of you. Dont say she can bring her boyfriend, instead say she can bring people along if she likes , which will probably have the same result but without being so specific and thus wont seem as calculated. Shame shes getting married....and so young! Well I wish her the best of luck I suppose, I've met some people who've made it work from sucha young age but I sure wouldnt risk it.
all I can say is that Im engaged, if someone were to start trying to fuck around wiht my girl.......
there have been people that asked her out, thst to be expected, most quit after she tells them shes taken, others persist and I have to pay a visit to thier homes and "talk" to them.
There is no harm in asking a girl out, engaged or not, there is no harm is hanging out with some girl engaged or not, my fiance' has plenty of people she hangs out with and what not. If she says no, then you need to drop it. If I found out one of her buddies that just hangs out with her was after more, Id break all his fucking ribs for him.
18 is much too young to be engaged, do what it takes to get together with her. That means inviting to a party or asking her out privately. She seems disguraged by her present situation. Snag her even if there is a fight.