I just wanted to know how you strong, independent, and gloriously worthy people take an insult. And I don't mean the petty insults on the web, like the ones you throw back and forth on here ::COUGH::. I mean insults from people you live with, friends with, married to, don't even know. Stuffs like that. Because this girl right here is experiencing some serious psychological issues right now and I'm just going to get a rifle and shoot everyone. Normally I should be used to rudeness considering where I live but now it's just, why should I have to take that? I mean it's not even right. I know people always say "brush it off". You can't brush it off. What are you gonna brush it off with huh? An imaginary brush? No. Doesn't work. It's going to stay in your mind for quite some time. Till the point where you're like "hey, that person's a real jerk. let me knock him senseless." Now maybe I'm just a wimp and I take things too seriously. But that's me. I can't change that because I'm a sensitive person and if you say something rude I'm going to take it to heart, unfortunatley. Insulting me isn't making this low self-esteem issue any better. There are these girls, whether at school or dance class or work whatever. And though they are my friends they don't realize that sometimes what they say is just wrong. They say I'm slow all the time. I know that I don't catch on to things very quickly as the average human would but that doesn't mean I'm slow. Or stupid. I got a 98 on my chemistry exam and I carry that with pride. 98! That's two points from perfection. So no, I'm not slow. But I still get called "slow". Things like "damn girl you mad slow" or "wow you're a retard" or "I think it's time for you to go to Kingsbridge Heights". Crap like that. That's rude! I get called airhead, blondie, chelsea, birdhead, crackhead (don't even say anything), bombaclaud (bad jamaican word), kelly and some others I won't mention. And it's not just from friends, it's from family too. I know my mom says some stuff about me in French. No matter how innocent she looks. She uses the same word that she described when talking about her brother and the same word when yelling at me. She doesn't like her brother. She's not fooling anyone. I got beat yesterday because of her brother. Not even right. Got the scar to prove it too. Still hurts. So I would just like to here some stories or situations that happened and how you deal with them WITHOUT VIOLENCE. And without cursing because that's a little out of control. Make with the discussion. I'll be writing this down.
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How do you take an insult?
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In reply to: Normally I should be used to rudeness considering where I live but now it's just, why should I have to take that? You are right a person like you should not have to take shit like that. But I also ask you, in what productive manner can you stop it? In reply to: Insulting me isn't making this low self-esteem issue any better. You know I have felt similar to how you describe what you feel. I agree that insults and such really do bring you down, and brushing off is just avoiding the issue. What always helped me are the people here on A2A or on AIM. I know that it seems kind of strange, but that is the truth. If they care about you, then you already have something going against those insults, that there must be something good. I found that really understanding that boosted self-confidence when I needed it. In reply to: here are these girls, whether at school or dance class or work whatever. And though they are my friends they don't realize that sometimes what they say is just wrong. They say I'm slow all the time. I know that I don't catch on to things very quickly as the average human would but that doesn't mean I'm slow. Or stupid. I got a 98 on my chemistry exam and I carry that with pride. 98! That's two points from perfection. So no, I'm not slow. But I still get called "slow". Things like "damn girl you mad slow" or "wow you're a retard" or "I think it's time for you to go to Kingsbridge Heights". Crap like that. That's rude! I get called airhead, blondie, chelsea, birdhead, crackhead (don't even say anything), bombaclaud (bad jamaican word), kelly and some others I won't mention. That whole statement...That is high school drama, that is the teenager attitude (the gist of teenagers). You need to see it as they are not making fun of you because of you being slow, it is simply how they are dealing with someone who is different. It is something new to them and often when not understanding something people react, whether it be anger or resorting to insults. I have a friend like this right now, and I know how it feels...I am going to cut it off. In reply to: And it's not just from friends, it's from family too. I know my mom says some stuff about me in French. No matter how innocent she looks. She uses the same word that she described when talking about her brother and the same word when yelling at me. She doesn't like her brother. She's not fooling anyone. I got beat yesterday because of her brother. Not even right. Got the scar to prove it too. Still hurts. So I would just like to here some stories or situations that happened and how you deal with them WITHOUT VIOLENCE. And without cursing because that's a little out of control. Make with the discussion. I'll be writing this down. Okay I totally understand that. And you want a non-violent solution? Just be you. Prove them all wrong. This is something that will make you stronger and develop your character as a person, I'd say you are shaping up pretty damn good so far, so embrace this. Do not see it as a negative issue. See this as a challenge, some thing to overcome, like a chemistry test. You are studying now, and when you find the viable soultion, thought, amazing idea. Run with it. I have been through it too. I have seen my family go from fully supporting me, to jumping ship and saying I am a loser and stupid. The cracks in the road you face now, finely tune your suspension so that later on when you face gaps, you are prepared for what is to come. Life is a challenge, there is always something there to conquer, to overcome. So I say for you to just keep being you, get your A+ on exams, get your 4.0+ GPA...work hard now, so it pays off later. For what you put in is what you get out.And keep coming to A2A or me if you would like, we can help be a stepping stone. That is what life is about. Find a challenge attack it, and have others there to help. Chance will like this. It is like climbing a cliff. If you are new to it, it helps to have other help setup the lines and such so that you can use your ability to conquer the mountain. (sorry if that is way off chance)...You can PM if you ever need anything, I am always glad to help or listen, whatever the person comes to me needs.
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Thanks alot. And yes I really need that because I was about to start chopping some heads. I agree but it's kind of hard to get over things like that. Because then you sort of get the feeling like maybe they're right. But I don't even know. I don't have that umph to stand up to some of the people who do that because they're all huge compared to me. Takes a while, you know.
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well being right and wrong on many levels is what you decide. They are not going to be able to say what life choice suits you best. And yes I understand that umph problem, go through it alot. And I know how I got mine back, by people who care about me, and people who have helped/help me. I have found talking to others really does help. And I will gladly help you out if I can, if you need someone to be a stepping stool, let me know. And guess what they are not huge...maybe by physical standards or some bs popularity deal but that does not mean anything. You havea personality and a great head on your shoulders, you have everything on them.
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Maybe they dont think they are "insulting" you. I call my friends names like slow and dummy sometimes. I never really looked at it from their perspective, and I think those girls might not even realize that they are hurting your feelings.