Complex Situation

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Ok to start I dont want to hear "distance relationships never work forget about it" or something of the like if you do I will slap you with my telekinetic abilities but here goes, Last year I met a girl and we talked alot,but since last November we've become more except never met but have talked on the phone and internet for a little more than a year, but she lives almost 2 and a half hours away so I don't want to just go there like once a week for a few hours and leave but I can't be spending hundreds of dollars on a hotel there so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions and ways to carry out said suggestions

spend the night with her? I mean you are gonna have to spend some money, 2.5 hours is not that bad...Why not go pick her up for a weekend and have her come back with you?

well shes said her parents arent to receptive to the thought of her spending the night with a boy (manly grunt)i mean guy but im kinda skeptic as to if MY parents would allow her to stay here but theyd probably be more lenient but what im talking about is staying a few days because her schedule is kind of hectic at the moment and as for summer shes probably going to cheer camp and all sorts of others

hmmmm need to talk to her and her rents...Maybe before you spend a bunch of days together go there and just go on a first date, just 1 day...meet the rents and everything...See how that goes. Will give you more options.

lol, cool you have telekenetic powers, sweet, ok, long distance relationships never work. Slap me, slap me!

sorry i shouldve put that in, i know its not a good idea to just go and try to spend a few days but maybe i can hypnotize her parents to act like monkeys that way theyll have no problem with me staying as long as i bring plenty of bananas.....

winning parents over is not about amazing them. I mean if you want to be close to her then be yourself and if they see you really are a good guy then they should have no issues. In your case meet them first and go from there.

oh i wasnt talking about amazing them if i wanna do that ill just drop my pants JK i was talking about making them think they were monkeys for the duration but that would pose a problem wouldnt it and she might not be to happy about that though she would laugh for a few, and i think i can impress well get them to like me but the problem is they dont want her having sex which is fully understandable but Emily has other plans and would you really trust a 17 year old sleeping within 500 feet of your daughter (hypothetically speaking i dont know if you have kids or not) let alone with her in her bed? i would assume itd be dam tough to convince her parents to basically allow us to have sex (which shes only 23 days older than me in case of confusion) even though we intend to use as many forms of protection as possible well safely anyway even though that still wouldnt be a 100% SURE guarantee that she wouldnt get pregnant and i wouldnt bust out if she did hell if anyone but her told me to just back off id have to lay them out

well is that how you feel now? More sexual towards a person you have not dated in person? I would be careful where you go with that there feeling, that is what will cause problems.

oh no not just sexual hell she honestly wants it more than me or atleast equal so theres no worry there

I think if you are serious enough you should be prepared to drive 2 1/2 hours each way to spend a few hours once a week. It's the price you are expected to pay to make the relationship work.There may be alternatives to expensive hotels, too. Is there anywhere you can put up a small tent?

well im not sure about the tent hell i wouldnt mind just parking in there driveway and sleeping in the darn vehicle and i am serious enough to drive and spend just a few hours i just dont want to do that to her,and i dont want that to be the permanent way

good point...Like I said it is only 2.5 hours...Relatively short drive for a distance relationship. Long distance relationships usually refer to having a loved one about a days drive away or something of that variation. I have also found that the close distance relationships fail a bit quicker, I always thought that was funny.But it makes sense they are close enough to see but far enough that visiting is complicated.

its not the 2.5 hour drive i mind hell id love it i love driving alone singin to the music and such, i just put that in as a point rather than a complication other than on her side considering she doesnt have a vehicle she can take for most of the day atleast not right now, and its not that, its just the last relationship i was in that was remotely similiar was only an hour away but i was only 15 and didnt have my permit so i had no real way of getting there and she just basically said fuck that which is understandable oh and its not a complete 2.5 its more 2hr 17mins,144 miles (i memorized the mapquest bit)well give or take traffic

Well you need to do what we have said...Go over for a day and meet her and hang out then stay for a family dinner so they can get to know you and that way it all begins to get the gears moving.

ahh ive never liked eating anyone elses food but yeah if they have the time id have to smile and take it up the tailpipe

time to enjoy other peoples foods and that sounded a bit close minded...

its not anything about their cooking its just ive never really known what to do at dinner situation like all the proper manners and such and if they go by that and theyve just always made me nervous and uncomfortable even with family

well use common sense. See how their values go before eating.

ya but i always get really nervous when it comes to eating around people i dont know why