Ur 1st time......

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What have I accomplished from being a virgin? I simply havnt done anything, for good or ill. Its inaction, not an accomplishment.

In reply to: But glorifying...that's uncalled for. That's more like putting themselves above somebody else. No one can do that. While agree with that then can't one say that one who has had sex has no right offering input to those who have waited considering that person has not waited or done what the person is doing?That is where I get pissed at people...They have all this advice to give, yet they do not follow through with it...I never approved of that...

That's kind of confusing...Does someone who didn't wait have the right to offer advice to someone who did? Heck yeah. Why shouldn't they. I can tell you straight up about consequences that someone who hasn't done it can't.

Well, I guess what I was saying is that someone who has made the decision to wait until they are married or whatever, and then stuck with it, has accomplished something.If it just never happened cause you never had the chance or whatever...that's something diffrent.

well it is a personal battle...I know that it goes both ways...In that someone who has not had sex or a relationship should not give advice, if you were to follow my words that is.

Maybe you can explain it. If you are to warn someone away from it, then why do it?

well my virginity is by choice ive hada few oppurtunities and if all goes right i will give it up in a month or 2 to the the right girl ,but thats important but not, its important in the spiritualness of it but not really in my top on list of priorities with this girl so yeah,and chances are, when i do i will scream it on these very forums lol

I had 6 chances to do it but i always messed up...self conciencely ofcourse.

I was JUST 17 literally.. by a couple of days.. I'd been seeing him for about 7 weeks, and it was great. He was really good with me and although it hurt he never once stopped making sure I was okay. I'll never regret it edit: I split up with him for a month recently, now back together again after talking over our probs, making it that we've been together for about a year and a half

im not proud of being a virgin, but im definatly not ashamed of it.it just is how it is.i dont think im superior 2 any1, but i think its sad ppl who throw their 1st time away like its a nastly thing they need 2 get over and done with.ive just chosen i different road. each 2 his ( or her) own. ive got friends whove taken the other path,and i feel sad 4 them if they didnt enjoy it, but its up 2 them. im not a preacher

>>>Oh aye I would prefer lose my virginity to a virgin, though as I get older the chance of that decreases.

i donno bout that tho. if the guys a virgin 2, hes not gonna turn round and b like""well, u were a crap lay" and id feel more confident bout myself.
but if hes not, atleast 1 of us would no what we were doin.lol.

well remember you are getting older and as guys get older they will tend to know more than some 15 year old....But please do not include me in the virgin guys who do not know wht they are doing section...that bugs the hell out of me.

In reply to:Maybe you can explain it. If you are to warn someone away from it, then why do it? So, if I were driving your Jeep down a road and I flagged you down and I was standing there all bloody and bruised and I said to you "Don't go any farther down this road. You can't tell from here but all of a sudden the ground opens up and you fall into this huge abyss before you even see its there, but if you take a right here you can go around it and even see some great scenery." Would you not listen to me? Would the fact that I fell into the hole and got all banged up (possibly ignoring someone else's advice) mean that I don't have the right to warn you?Or are you asking why I would warn someone away from something that I continue to do? Well, that's a good question. There are several answers. The first would be that I might warn a 15 year old away from something that I'm doing as a 33 year old man. Or possibly I'm not doing it as much as I used to. Or, just possibly, when I do it it's cause I'm an addict and I hate it when I'm doing it and am warning others about the fact that, while others just preach the positives of willy nilly sexual activity, I'm very aware of its pitfalls.

Yeah that makes sense. It is a process of opening up to others.Thanks bud, that answered a lot of quesitons.