my bfs cousin is gettin married and im invited,i love the idea,although i dont with the fact his mate is coming.his mate never speaks to me,and when conversation strikes up im never included,so im just ther bein quiet all night and i hate it its so boring,and i have to listen to him goin on about girls (hes single) and to my bf n it makes me insecure n awkward.so im really not lookin forward to this family event,i feel like sayin i cant come and stay at home but i dont want to so its a viscous circle.i just know on the day and night ill b there inbetween them both chattin and ill never speak a word ill be SO bored,and im also dreadin the fact his mate will b talkin about girls and ill feel awful.My bf will hav to pay attention to his mate and cant just focus on me all night,i know this for sure but im afraid ill b feelin left out all night n when i get drunk ill end up sayin things ill regret for feelin so crap,or ill have a face on me all day.PLEASE can anybody give me advice on this matter? i really dont want to seem a misery guts on his cousins big day.thanx
I hate my constant fear! please help
Well, you should go to show respect to your boyfriend's family, even if it's a trial and you hate it. If your boyfriend and his mate won't talk to you, perhaps you can find someone else there you can talk to?
I agree. You should go, out of respect for your boyfriend and his family. Unfortunately, relationships aren't all roses, and these are some of those burdens that come with relationships.If you're boyfriend is mature enough to handle the conversation, tell him how you feel. With any luck, he'll make the effort to make you feel included.