So, over the past four months I've come to find myself in love with my best friend of nearly two years. Weird in itself, but some drama went down and he was pissed at me and some other friends (it was about him and his gf that nobody likes). We finally got to talking it out and we are on good terms and decided that we are still best friends, during our talking I finally told him that I just didnt like his gf because she is stupid and that I was basically jealous of her because she has him. He was cool with everything, and now we are just being normal, but I just don't know what to do, its such a strange situation. He says he understands where I'm coming from because he has felt the same way as me, but never really thought about it I guess. I guess i should also mention that I'm pretty much in denial about being the way I am, like i said its complicated. Any ideas?
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Complicated Friendships
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When you say your now being normal, were you two intimate before? Well you got the hard part over with! Telling someone how you feel in that way can be tuff. Now that he knows how you feel, it is up to him to make his own decision. Are you a male friend or female? You said something along the lines of being in denial about the way you are, thats why I am asking. Well give him time to think about it, but don't wait forever. When you feel the time is right, you need to move on and leave it as friends.
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bleh, im a guy- thats why its complicatedwe were never intimate, i meant normal like just acting like we have before as best friendsthanks for the reply, and you're right i shouldnt wait for anything becasue i personally dont even know if i would be able to handle the situation (i told him i didnt expect anything of him, and i meant it)and about denial, i really would prefer not to be gay, but when things are in the back of your head its really difficult to think one way and act another sigh
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Sadly yes when you are young that situation would be complicated. You are who you are and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. Your growing up in a time where it isn't frowned upon as much anymore, but on the other hand there are still a lot of hard core conservative/religous(not all of them) pricks that won't be cool about shit like that. I myself am strait as an arrow, but people always ask me if I am gay. I was told because I have an open mind and I am totally comfortable around the gay crowd. I would even go to the gay clubs with some old friends of mine. They helped show me that they are human too, and I don't care what people do as long as it doesn't hurt me. I grew up with a really conservative father. I recently moved home for a better job and he is still a prick at times. He spent so many years with a buddy of his shooting the shit with a bartender at their favorite watering hole. Well it turns out, he is gay(the bartender). I go in and talk to him all the time because he is a great person. He keeps asking about my dad and how he misses talking with him. I have told my dad to swing in sometime for just a beer and shoot the breeze, but he kinda shrugs me off. I know it is just for the simple fact he is gay that he won't go in there. My dad told me when I first got back about finding out he was gay, and he was talking like his once friend was less of a person now. I love my father to death, but he will never change. I just can't understand him. Why would you lose such a good friend over something like that.