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Personally I think being friends first doesn't work. But I agree that relationships should be more than sex, much more. It's awesome to have it, and frequently I might add, but it isn't the be all and end all in my relationship.

I've loved without having sex and my girlfrriend stayed with me and I think loved me despite the fact I wouldnt sleep with her. But theres nothing inherently wrong with wanting it, theres nothing wrong even with wanting sex and not the other aspects of the relationship...thats just a sure enough sign that your only attracted physically and not mentally and thus it follows that you shouldnt try with the mental stuff because you just dont have that going for you. But there will be other people to whome you are physically AND mentally attracted to. You just got to take each person as a seperate case and not be too bothered if one aspect doesnt work with one person.As to Joebloggs, alot of people think that but I think its actualy not atall true. My best mate in school was a girl.

You don't NEED sex to love someone, but it complements the love you feel for someone. My manthing is going through depression at the mo and to be honest his sex drive is at an all time low, so we don't do it that often, that doesn't mean that i love him any less, and we still kiss and cuddle. I think women find it easier to love without sex than men do mind you, men are more physical and women are more emotional.

I said friends FIRST. From my personal experience I don't think it works. I've had much greater success with females I've showed a sexual interest in from the start, rather than becoming friends first. Having said that I do come from an all boys school.

Ah yes, I misread. And on that I'd agree with you.

I agree with the whole being friends first thing, probably because I'm not very confident around guys that I fancy when I first meet them, so I never get anywhere with them. It's kind of guy says something, I giggle nervously, they walk away. Meh.The best relationship I had was with a guy who I'd been friends with for a couple of years before another friend pointed out how much we'd started flirting with each other. We never really did all that much sex stuff, because we enjoyed spending time with our friends as well as each other, but when we did it was great. Unfortunately we've broken up now, because we went to different uni's and he didn't think he could handle a long distance relationship, but we're still good friends and have fun (as friends, not sexually!) in the holidays. I think I'd rather have a great friend than someone who aways wants to have sex.

See exactly pinkroses. That's what I mean. Why should you 'want' sex in order to love someone or have a relationship with someone. What about young couples? If the peoople in love are young. Do they NEED to have sex to be "physically attracted" as Joebloggs said? That's annoying.

Listen here, both my wifes have been physically and sexually raped by thier father or uncle. I pay the price as well, ie. flashbacks, sex sometimes brings back those memories. So I am a normal healthy sexuall 34 year old wishing for more sex as it is. My wife doesnt care much for it and encourages me to look elsewhere. Of course I dont. But if I was cut off completely I would probably seek sex elsewhere. I make no opologies. I am faithfull now.

What do you find wrong with sex? Our physical attraction to each other is based on sexual desire, its what our bodies are built for and its one of the only things that we know that we should do. It is our purpose as living organisms to breed and create offspring. Its our nature and the nature of every living thing on this planet.So what is wrong with wanting it, or basing part of a relationship on it? It is a sign that you are interested in having a family with the person you are with. Obviously without the emotional side it means nothing, but when combined it is a very good and healthy desire.

Exactly Bob!...Sex=Babies!= Population= Economy= Better life=sex and the world keeps on spinning!

Not quite what I was going for, but thanks for the support!

I tried did i not! Lets make a song about....Sex!

Nah, lets talk about sex... baby. Lets talk about you and me. Lets talk about all the good things, and the bad things...

that's just it? whyyy? sex is ok if you're older and committed or something but to just jumpr around. I don't want to be in a relationship only to realize that the guy wants me for my body. I don't want to continue to meet guys in my life who skip the friendship part and go straight to the "hey what's your bra zie" part. No thanks.

Bob!....are you coming on to me!...I like it

But you have to remember that you're still quite young! The guys your age and a lot around my age too are only getting these urges recently and don't know how to deal with them properly. They feel that they need to act on them. Over time they will learn that there is far more to a relationship than sex, but at the moment you can either wait for a mature guy to come around, or just lay off the whole dating scene until you're older.You can't expect guys your age to be mature, its just not gonna happen.

lol well I know it takes people time to mature that's no joke but it's still really disturbing. there is such a thing as self-control though they aren't robots. and just so you know I'm not "trying to date" anyone. I'm not that kind of girl however I do think there is such a thing as being friends with people of the opposite sex. unfortunately that can't be when your "friend" keeps trying to get a grab lol not as a funny but still

Its human nature and its not really something you can do to change. Just set your rules, tell the guys that you don't want them touching you and if they do it again then you'll have their testicles ripped off. Or words to that effect...

I believe he was talking about his current wife and his ex-wife.

Poor Crazy Sexy Bob.