The "talk"

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Have 2 teen sons, not sure how to handle awkward questions and havin "the talk" how have others dealt with this?

I was wondering about that too. How early is too early to have the talk with your kids. My oldest is 8 years old and I know when I was 8 years old, I had somewhat of an idea of what sex was. Just not sure when to bring it up with him, don't want to wait too long, but don't want to give him stuff too early either.

i wouldnt tell them at 8 because of that age but if you feel this is ok go ahead

I got a book when I had the "talk" It was basically everything you wanted to know in a book. It was really good, it had a car theme to it. It also had things about puberty, jerking off, sex, periods, STDs... etc. everything you need to know.

The book wasnt about how cars have sex, it was car themed... so like, aw never ind

i never had the talk but i started masturbating when i was 12 is tht bad or is it ok ?

ok

A few years ago, he kinda brought it up when watching a scene on a movie, that I hurried up and shut off, after someone had told me it was okay for him to watch the movie-they were wrong!!! But anyways, he said hey turn it back on to see if they are done having sex... I about freaked out, cause he was only 5 at the time. (of course I didn't turn it back on, they only had started kissing or something like that, but it was leading up to it) I asked him what sex was and he told me it was when people got naked and kissed. In my opinion, that is pretty graphic for a 5 year old..... Now it is 3 years later, and I am not sure what else he has heard, so this is why I kinda feel I need to talk to him, but not sure how to go about it. I have been thinking about this for a while now.

Yeah, I could do that. Thanks for the advice. And I know not to tell him everything, I don't want him to know it all. He doesn't even like girls yet, in a way that-she is cute or she is my girlfriend.

With our daughters, we just answered their questions as they asked them, which was very early. At an early age it is far easier, because it's just an academic question then, not a matter of embarrassment. We did get a useful picture book or two as well (I mean educational, of course, not porn) which they naturally read as they read everything else. That way they got to puberty with a reasonable intellectual knowledge of what would happen.My father did nothing until I was 12, then had a talk that what highly embarrassing for both of us, and we both heartily wished it would end.

My eldest who is 12 has been having 'life' classes as primary school, which include periods, erections, babies etc etc......he's told me when they have been having the classes and then afterwards, ive sat with him to make sure he understood what hes seen or heard, and answered any questions he might have or points he didn't understand.In general we are open to talk to the kids about anything, if they ask, we will explain...........but i know my manthing is more worried about talking to the boys than i am LOL

im 16 and have never had a "talk" i would says its best to say "have any questions im happy to answer" also , in england at least the schools give you sex education lessons anyway , as angel witch said

ive never had the talk or a sex ed class and im 16 i just figured it out around 6-7th grade. which is around the most other guyts get the talk so i wasnt really left out much. im now a junior so that was a while ago.

kids these days are always on the internet. perhaps just refer them to a suitable website (I don't know any myself)I learnt most of the stuff about the subject on random places on the internet

I did not really get the talk from the parents either. Mostly learnt at school or from other guys and looking at porn mag's.I think it is a shame that parents can't always talk to their children about puberty and stuff. But I guess not everyone is confortable talking about this to their kids.Learning it in school is fine I guess as you are with kids all your own age and are not so embrassed if it was a one on one with your mum or dad.And these days I guess the internet has opened up a whole new world of learing about this kind of stuff. HOWEVER i still think it would be helpful if my parents(Dad I guess) sat down and told me stuff about what has happening with my body at the time I was going through puberty. Sure we would have been embrassed talking about this kind of stuff but I guess it would also help build that father son realtionship a bit further as well. I mean every one goes through this stage of life so what is the big secret about it.Happy learing!

i didn't get the talk either.i learned about sex from my best friend when i was six.i learned about puberty from the internet

i got the talk from my dad when i was like in 8th grade,my cousin had a kid and it was on accident and my dad goes HEY! u know how ur cousin had a kid..well wear a condom!!the worst was from my mom,i got caught stealing a porno from my dad and she gave me the talk and i cried my ass off lol i was so embarssed she talked to me about it,we were driving and i was about to open up the door and roll out of the car.

actually i've never viewed the main site, I only found this forum through a link.

My elementary school had a "sex ed" type class which they no longer do. Parental permission was required.4th and 5th grade, the girls would get a talk about getting your period.5th grade, the guys would get a talk, not sure exactly what was said.In 6th grade, guys are girls were separated and shown diagrams of a uterus, a penis, and a profile drawing of a pregnant woman. The entire thing was about pregnancy, nothing about masturbation or physical development.7th through 9th grade, we had brief "sex ed" classes in P.E.The only "talk" I ever got from my parents was my mom telling me "Don't have Sex" (yes, sex is capitalized) after I asked her what a condom was (5th grade I think?). In 8th grade, I sat down with my mom and told her I needed to know because I'd find out from her or I'd find out incorrectly from more "experienced" friends.The problem is, I remember masturbating in my room at a very young age. My mom and dad both caught me, and just told me to stop. I had no idea what it was until middle school. I really wish my parents had talked to me about it earlier in life, I felt so ignorant about sex and my body for years.

I'm 18 (19 in a month! sorry, bit excitable) and i've never been given the talk. But most of my friends went through puberty before me, and cos I lived with them I learnt all about it, and all the stuff they knew about sex and stuff. Before I went to boarding school (when I was 11)I don't think I ever really though about how babies were made! so innocent... Anyway, before I started my period my mum got me this book called 'have you started yet' which told me about the female body and periods and stuff. The most accurate stuff I learnt about sex and babies was from Bio classes, where we weren't split up or anything, we all got given the same exam paper, all had to know the same stuff! By the time we were given sex ed classes they had nothing useful to tell us. Just use a condom, avoid std's. like we didn't already know that.