I am a relatively young man who has been married for a little while now. Once the Honeymoon phase was over, sex virtually disappeared. We have tried counseling and other stuff and it doesn't help. I am so horney some days I can't stand it. Regular masturbation, even once or twice a day, just doesn't cut it. Any ideas??
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Married but no sex and horney!!
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Damn, your wife isn't all that, is she?
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Try a Fleshlight? :laughing:
That would be a short term bandaid to a much larger problem though - so I was kindda kidding there. Does your wife know how you feel - I mean including how horny and frustrated you are?
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I have heard good things about the fleshlight. I have had enough of the real thing to know the difference. Do you think it would be a viable solution? I looked at their site, and they have a lot of different inserts. Any recommendations? Maybe I will ask the wife for one on father's day? (kinda ironic, huh?)
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In reply to:
I am so horney some days I can't stand it.
i 2nd that... hell hormones :angry:
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In reply to:I looked at their site, and they have a lot of different inserts. Any recommendations? I have the Supertight Wonderwave Lady Ice model I can definitely recommend that - mind blowing orgasms and the ice model is nice, because its clear so you can see your cock sliding in and out of it. The wonderwave means its ribbed inside. For me, the ribs don't do much at first, but then as I get close to orgasm OMG it is INTENSE!!! If you're looking for realism to the real thing, the supertight regular lady model (smooth inside) is the best. The one with the little bumps inside (forgot what they call it) is new, and I've heard really good things about it, but it can almost be too intense. I definitely recommend the fleshlight though - by far the best sex toy I've purchased. It's not going to fulfil emotional and love needs, but if its just getting sexual release and an awesome orgasm that you're after, it does a fantastic job - better than your hand or just about any other masturbation can do.
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is your wife refusing to have sex with you?
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more or less. she just doesn't like sex. ironically, she complains that sex takes 45 min when masturbating takes 5. hmm..... kinda thought that was a good thing
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This is VERY BAD. I know...my husband is the one who doesn't want sex. VERY FRUSTRATING and it's SUCH a rejection. Your marriage WILL NOT LAST without counseling. Is she willing to go? Or you can go alone to get a handle on things, see what you want to do.I've been married for 12 years and am planning to leave very soon. I shoulda left 7 years ago when I had the chance. Wasted all this time. Good guy, but no sex is a deal breaker for me.Do you have any children?? If not, DO NOT have any until this issue is resolved. Things get waaaaaayyyy harder if you have kids. (divorce wise.) I wish you luck.
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I'm biased. I think that the FleshLight is pretty damn close to the real thing and yes, it'll be a way to bridge over the problem until you get this sorted out.However, the real problem is why is she withholding sex. That's what you should concentrate on, if you want your marriage to work.
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Hey Maggie, I know what you're talking about. My wife says that there's no time so I whack off 3 or 4 times a day. Have 3 kids so I'm not leaving. Too bad you're not in Illinois, we could help each other out.
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You can masturbate ten times a day, and buy a closetful of sex toys, but your marriage sounds pretty close to broken to me unless you fix it. To me, it all starts with communication. You've got to tell her about your needs and make sure she knows (if she doesn't already) that you're reduced to shopping a web forum for advice on fake vaginas to take care of them. (You might even try masturbating to climax openly where she can see you--beside her in bed, for example, or in the bathroom when you're just in or just out of the shower. That's one way of making it graphic.) And you've got to hear out her needs, too. Is there something sexual she wants (oral, being masturbated) and hasn't been getting from you? Are you making demands (oral, anal, bondage, whatever) that she finds repellant? Talk--frank, direct talk--is the only way you'll find common ground, if that's still possible. And if it isn't, you need to know that, too, so you can make some hard decisions--break up or live a life of sexual deprivation with your toys.
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where in illinois?
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Go for it, Maggie.