You and your kids/parents

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For those who are married and with children or just have children, is there anything that you said to your kids that you wish you kid take back?And for those who are still with their parents, is there anything you said to your parents that you wish you hadn't said?

The many times that I have said "I Hate you". Not my proudest moments.

So many of them.

Umm not really my parents say the bad things to me...

yupblurting out "don't you care about anything? you're just like your mother"prolly shouldn't have said that

In reply to: And for those who are still with their parents, is there anything you said to your parents that you wish you hadn't said? yea. and there are things that have been done i wish i could take back too.

nope, not iwht my kids, Im alwasy straight with them. I never told them they were not good enough or smart enough or strong enough or anything that had a negative reaction aside from are you stupid ? ( no dad) then dont fucking do stupid stuff ! Think before you do shit, once its done you cant take it back.With my parents, I said alot of shit I wish I could take back, far too many to ever list or even try.

There are always things we as parents do or say that afterward we would think "damn wish i hadn't said/done that* but parents are just people, who have issues, make mistakes and sometimes get it wrong. The most important thing for me as a parent is to say sorry to the kids if i have done or said something........they know im not perfect, but they also know when they mess up they make things right.

Not a single word. I have always watched what I say. I have learnt to shut up when I'm angry just in case something happens and I say something that I'll regret. I barely get angry at all tho. I was talking to a friend of mine last night about this and she told me that in the 2 years that she has known me, she has only seen me get angry twice. And she could tell cause I just went quiet.Saying things out of anger only leads to trouble. If I get angry at someone I will wait a while until we both settle down before talking to them. Tis why I have never fought with any of my friends or ever been in a fight with anyone really.

I know this is to be about parents or kids, but really I cannot think of anything right now.But I have a cousin that I am very close to and she and I got into a huge fight when I was like 13 and I said "I don't know who they hell you think you are, you're not even family you were adopted!" I still regret saying that every day and STILL feel horrible for every saying that. I still find myself apologizing for that one.

yeah I know but sometimes parent or my parents at least make it seem like they are always right or that they can't make a mistake or something and they don't realize that some of the things they say actually hit somewhere.

i don't think my mom is human.shes more like superwoman!she goes to work from 9am to like 10pm,comes home cleans to like 3am,some how deals with stuff with my 16yr old demon of a step sister who doesn't even live with us(don't ask)goes to bed,then starts up again.

yeah they do that a lot, but they need to be strong and do that to teach boundaries, but yes as the kids get older it gets worse.

I know right. And there's moments when you don't know when to say the right thing. I remember last time we were getting ready for company and my mom always goes nuts when it comes to guests so we had to cook. Meaning I had to cook. And I guess I just got pissed becauseI told her "am I destined to live my life in a kitchen? why don't you put me in the cotton field while you're at it" which resulted in her smacking the crap out of me with a hot saucy wooden spoon. Should have seen it coming

ummm I am sorry but beating children is not the way to parent. There are other ways to punish a child.

Well my parents are not as smart as I am persay. I mean I love my mom to death and she is not so school smart and my dad has a PhD and he is not street smart...I am in the middle and combine them both...so I get in a lot of trouble with my mom (never talk to dad, so *shrugs*).

well I and the other 4 siblings of mine group up with that type of discipline. Including my cousins etc. Lying resulted in beatings, disobeying, and usually my brothers correction my cousins always got me in trouble. Whether it was riding our bikes on some train track hill, sneaking out at night, my brother driving my dad's lotus when it wasn't fixed yet lol. There was that time he was caught smoking in the house. Only my dad can make a 19 year old tough guy cry. But we're used to it because that's how we were brought up and well, most of my friends were brought up that way so it's no big deal I guess.

Yes there are times when I wish I didn't say something to my kids. It sucks when that happens. But I agree with Angel, you say you are sorry, I do that too.

oh... sorry

you're really strong about it

wow that's deep... and intense. But I'm proud of you for taking it that way. It's hard losing someone who is close to you or who you love. I know how you feel. When my uncle died I think the whole family was experiencing it's own little "Great Depression".