So my boyfriend and I have made the decision to have sex. We've discussed our concerns, and thought about it etc. We are both virgins, and this is both our first serious relationship, so we don't exactly have experience in this area. (He was my first kiss and the first guy I made out with). However from what I have read it will probably be fairly uncomfortable for me, considering I do not think my hymen has been stretched/broken or whatever term you use. So I am wondering is there any way I can make it hurt less? Or just ease the pain, any techniques etc? Basically any information/advice would be great. I obviously would prefer that it wasnt too painful...
Having sex for the first time
**Try to be a relaxed as you can be, which will be difficult if you are worried about it hurting. If you can do it somewhere where you will be both comfortable and uninteruppted, without any worry of anyone hearing you or coming in. Set the mood, don't rush things, have extra lubrication on hand that will make it easier to slide in and less painful for you, use protections and the most important thing, have fun! Having sex with someone is a serious thing, it isn't however meant to be deadly serious, have fun, laugh, relax, and go with the flow - I hope your first time is a memorable one hon ** :grin:
You may want to lay on a towel or something just incase you do bleed.
Make out alot and make sure you are really turned on and wet before you just go at it. Have him finger you first.
The more relaxed you are, the better it will feel. I had an orgasm the first time I had sex, even though it hurt some.