Sex and love

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there's something i don't understand about me....why do i have a problem inside.... with the idea of just sex with any other woman.....because i'm in love with this girl.....and we are simply friends for now........i can't separate em....love and sex....i'm holding myself captive and others just look at me like i'm missing it.........i don't get it.... help

Sex is just an aspect of a loving relationship. But it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be in love to have sex, obviously. I can understand how people could confuse the two. Is that the kind of answer you were looking for? I wasn't sure...

my question is......i understand the difference between sex and love
had enough "just sex".......what i don't understand is why i can't let myself just go and get lade because i'm in love with her
she probably may think i don't care enough about sex
but that ain't the case
the problem is somewhere inside of me and my understanding
somewhere between my head and my heart
its hard inside on my heart
wish i could figure it out

Well i'm officially lost. Anyone else wanna try?

why won't my heart let me go have "fun" with someone else

Because your in love. You don't want to hurt your girlfriend.

sorry bout that......its hard to describethanx for trying

were just friends ......for now.....growing togetheram i supposed to feel this way to not want anyone else

It's normal. It means you care about her and potentially want a monogamous relationship.

or sorta kinds get ya. just think of sex a physical thing... a habit.. a sport or something (no jokes guys) just something to do. And love as a mental and/or emotional thing. You love your sister/brother but not in a way that you would have sex with 'em.

In reply to:You love your sister/brother but not in a way that you would have sex with 'em. you would hope.lol.

lol yes I would hope.

I think your feelings are nice.

is that normal ?normal.........i'm not

You seem to be holding yourself out for this girl. You don't wanna have sex cause you want her to know that you are free and available for her.As Ineligible said, its nice to see that someone feels this way. Its almost a true sign of love. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way, and I really hope that you do end up with her.

thank you your affirmation lets me know i'm not sooo different just because of my own lack of knowledge about what i feeli seek to understand myself.....big timeagain....thanx

thank you

your welcome :wink: