I really have no clue how I appear to other people in general. Sometimes I feel like I look really cool and awesome but other times I feel like I look like the most horrible creature to ever crawl out of it's darkened lagoon (mostly the latter). All I know is that I'm 15, I'm brown, I have black hair, I'm not fat, I'm not tall, I'm not short, I'm not strong, I don't look weak (actually I can't even tell that...). As for my face, I have no clue how THAT appears to other people. I think my nose is a little big and my 5mm overbite makes me look ugly (hey, if it didn't, why are my parents spending money for braces?). But then again, I am obviously not able to judge myself correctly because I, like most people, notice the flaws with my myself before anything that may look mildly normal...Does anyone else have this problem? Because this really gets me sometimes. Not being AT ALL able to know how you appear to others can be really weird. But does that mean I'm not good looking or ugly? - since I can't tell myself...(shouldn't you be able to tell if you were attractive?)would a picture help btw?
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How do you know if you're good-looking? (for boys)
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Hey pal, I used to feel the same way but the best solution is to like whatever you get cuz its the only one your ever gonna have. It won't do much good to sulk or be miserable about yourself. I know I am not perfect as I have a large nose but I have learned to like what I have and It makes a big difference. Hope this helps
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Hey,
I think this is a really interesting/important topic. I agree that I often feel two extreme opposites of the spectrum. I model professionally- so I have to have something attractive- but a lot of girls don't find it that way -- -
It's hard to judge yourself because we are our own best critic. Not to sound like a cliché but as long as you are being true to yourself than you are looking good. I hate seeing people trying to look and act like other people because they think that's the "cool" thing to do. I'd rather be around someone who is unique than another clone zombie.
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self image is complicated. no matter how hard you try, you may never see yourself in the mirror and think 'wow im attractive'. A vain person is often thought of as someone who thinks they are super-attractive, when really a vain person is someone who prioritizes their appearance and obsesses over it all the time. quite often you'll hear beautiful girls saying stuff like 'wow i wish i where taller' and you might think, why? You're beautiful how you are and you dont need to be taller...thats because those women arent happy with their looks, even though they are beautiful. Think about it. Unless you've been told you're hideously ugly by everyone youve ever met, you probably have nothing to worry about. just accept yourself and enjoy life.or if you're really desperate to know, feel free to post a picture, and i will give you a 100 percent honest opinion
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i no i not i have acne and scars from a motorcycle accident.i no how u feel
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some women will think you're hot, others won't. I'm an Asian guy that lives in the South. (US) Not very many of us around. Anyway, in my area some girls have a flavor for asian guys and a lot don't. I just have to face that reality and not to let it discourage me.
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I once thought the same way as you did, but over the past few years I've kind of deduced how others perceive me. I'm a hit or miss kinda guy, either they think I'm hot or not (lol that was unintentional).I think the same can apply to quite a few people, you may think that a certain feature is not attractive (I thought of my nose) but it may turn out to be someone's favourite feature of you (like my girlfriend).No matter what you've got (within reason) there will be someone who likes the look of you, the trick is finding them! Of course there are some things that a large majority of people find "ugly", but there will be people who can look past that.When it comes down to it relationships start with a basic level of physical attraction, that won't sustain it alone.
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i actually have this same problem, sort of.Lemme say that i am happy with my looks in general, except for acne which is next to impossible for me to rid of. I can get it under control to a point, but can never completely remove it.Iv tried a lot of different acne products, but never seems to really help.If anybody has any suggestions for treating acne throw them out. You can leave the "duh" suggestions out though if u want.Yes, this is coming from a guy. I cant help it. Every other part of my face is flawless, so my mission to rid the acne to feel completely happy about myself.I know i strayed quite away from your question, but i just wanna say your not alone :P
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Well, I know Im good-looking, LOL!
Jeez. That was kind of cocky and rude. We're supposed to be helping him, not bragging about ourselves.
As for you, Tomatoes... you are your biggest critic, so of course you will notice your worst flaws. Braces arent just for cosmetics, they help your teeth function properly. My teeth werent straight before them, they are now, but I still have them to realign my jaw (to make them work properly, not because it looks bad) So don't beat yourself up. I think a lot of people think their nose is too big... many ppl I know complain about it. Just be happy that you look the way you are. Nobody's completely perfect.
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thanks guys, I guess what most of you have said is probably true...I guess different people DO see you differently - I know that sometimes when I don't shave or something I have a little bit of a beard going on. Some people at school tell me it looks really cool but personally I think I look like...well...some lazy guy who didnt shave =/ lol. I think I will post a picture actually. If anything I just want some resurrance. I'll try to get one on by tomorrow.
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Easy way to work it out. Look in the mirror, if it breaks its pretty self-explanatory!Mr. Nuts
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how do you know? if chicks are humping you left and right, you're either hot or loaded
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That is true.
Alot of guys I know are very good-looking and don't have girls surronding them.. I think every guy can be good-looking in their own way.
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What I think about these sort of things is that some people will find you attractive and some won't. It's about personal preference, what one person finds attractive my be completely different to what another thinks is attractive. Basically, you should try to be positive about the way you look and feel good about yourself.
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well I finally found my digital camera and I decided to take a couple of pictures because I have to know O_o. Please be brutally honest lol. Personally, I think I look a little too shabby here (although some people tell me not to shave completely), but this is the best I could get at the moment. sorry if it looks like a dirty piece of shit =/.http://putfile.com/pic.php?pic=6/17920303883.jpg&s=f5 edit: I tried smiling but the pic didn't come out too great rofl.
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you're kidding me! you look perfectly fine. stop worrying you worry wart lol
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You look really cute! Oh yes, that was brutal... Or at least blunt.
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Your fine, don't worry about it.
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I swear, every time someone complains about the way they look and posts a picture, I expect to see a hideous minger. It hasn't happened yet on this forum. You look perfectly normal and fine. If you have problems meeting people, it has nothing to do with your looks. You just need to force yourself into becoming more outgoing and more comfortable with people. It sounds ridiculous, but it can be done. You just have to keep pushing yourself.
