My parents has this little issue w/my bf...

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My bf is staying at our house for 3 months. My parents and him made an agreement that he would pay $100 a month to help w/ groceries. This month in the first week of June he paid $100 and NOW my parents want him to pay tomorrow. And its not even July YET! I guess my parents said that they dont have money...and they think that my bf doesnt trust them with his money because he doesnt want to give it to them he wants to actually be there shopping with his money because sometimes my parents get carried away with it and spends it on something else...Like I gave my mom $300 bucks for my college and I didnt have a bank account yet because I didnt have an California ID at the time to open one and she spent it all and the classes I NEEDED were dropped! so my bf kind of sees how my parents are really bad with money. And when they do go grocery shopping they buy tons of junk like microwavable food that wouldnt last a long time it would be gone in less that 2 weeks...and when my bf and I went, the food lasted for awhile until now. Now they are askin him to pay again...my bf said he will go shopping for us next week on July 1st. But my mom said it would be too late because my dad would get paid on Thursday!?? like what that did not make sense!My bf doesnt mind paying now but hes just afraid that they would do the same thing again and instead of paying $100 a month he pays $200. But that wasnt the deal! my dad makes TONS of money and I dont know how my parents are broke right now...i mean he just bought new speakers for $200 and today he bought some tools for it. I mean that could have been for the family. I just feel bad for my bf cause he does need to save money for school since he is paying it all by himself and his new apartment that he is getting in sept. I hope that my parents arent going to ask him for more money again. If he pays now then he wont pay again till aug. and that wont be for a while. My dad is all pist at him now because of this. Do you think my parents have the right to be mad at him?

It does sound like your parents are hopeless with money. Presumably they want to go grocery shopping straight after being paid because otherwise they'll have spent all the money.An agreement to pay a certain amount a month should include an agreement when the money is due, e.g. the first of the month. If the agreement didn't include that, it's time to get that agreed.

> Do you think my parents have the right to be mad at him?

No. They sound like little kids handling money. Your father's making tons of money, but they need $100 to feed themselves? If they don't think $100 a month (that wouldn't last me a week) is too little, then they should have asked for more in the first place.

And does your mom have anything to say about squandering the money you needed for college? That is really crazy.

Are you working? Isn't there any way you and your boyfriend can get an apartment together?

Thats true.. you may want to consider getting an apartment with him.. though at first it may be difficult.. in the long run.. it will be worth it..The wasy your parents are handling their money is insane! They may want to consider contacting a financial advisor.

I do work now but they are also asking me for money and i need that for school too! so its like whenever they are out of money they are going to ask my bf and I for it. Its true that my bf is living in our house and they do have a say in it but then again its the agreement that they made that wouldnt be fair to my bf.

Given that they're sucking money out of the both of you, what is the advantage of living at home? You might as well get an inexpensive apartment, if there's such a thing in your area (or near your school).

I would like to move out but my bf is moving in with these other two guys from the dorms that he was in and I dont think his parents would like me living with him because they think it would be to quick for us to live together and I go to a different college than him so it would be a long drive.I did ask my mom where she spent the money and she didnt say anything...but I know she spent it on the weekend that she went out with friends and got a hotel and partied. Im not sure if it went to that but she never answers me and I tell my dad but he doesnt do anything about it. Now they think my bf is rude but really he just wants his money to be safe.

They have your $300. That should be enough to cover your boyfriend for the rest of the summer. I wouldn't give them another dime. If they'd like your boyfriend to stock the pantry and fridge, that's fine. But I would not ever give them cash. Tough if they don't like it. They are completely incapable of handling money.If they just can't deal with that, then your boyfriend should move out.How did your parents survive all these years? Did they just flip their lids? Acquire a gambling problem?

My mom already spent that $300 a couple months ago...I seriously dont know how they dont have money. My dad makes over $100,000 a year, my mom doesnt work and she wont work until I get my liscense which I will be getting soon! but anyways I have an aunt and uncle who both TOGETHER only makes less that 80,000 a year and live in the bay area which is expensive! and they manage to have lots of money. I dont get it.

My mom had to lie to my dad that she had to get money out of his bank account to fix my car but I actually got my car fixed for free because my Uncle works at a shop. So I do think they need some financial counseling. Thats what my bf 's parents did because his mom would spend tons of money on stupid things and now they are really good with money.

But i feel that if I do tell my parents about getting help they would just laugh at me.

Yeah your parents could really use a financial advisor. Or they're lying. Cause they sound rediculous to me.

But i feel that if I do tell my parents about getting help they would just laugh at me.See how funny they think it is when you tell them that you've given them enough money, and you're not giving them any more until they stop spending it like a cocaine addict.No, it's not reasonable. The situation sounds quite insane. You need to get out of there as quicly as you can.Do they plan to go on welfare when they retire?

^ I dont think they want to be on welfare. I dont know I have a feeling my dad does have some money. My mom was all like "all we need is TP and water bottles" I mean you cant even afford to buy those little things and wait until Friday for my bf to get paid? so dumb! they should just as him for $20 bucks for that then. It seems fishy I know my dad has money in his bank! he cant be broke. I dont know...

Maybe they're maxed out on their credit cards.

Your parents definately need help managing their money. So there is nowhere you and your bf can live for the next few months? ok. Go to the grocery store and buy a gift card/certificate. That way you know the money will be spent on food.