Well, to start off, I have been hanging out with the same people for about 2 years, and somewhere along that amount of time we all started smoking weed. Things were great. All of us got along great and we never had any problems.Flash forward about 6 months, and we meet this girl. I'll call her Jan. We met her through a person named Joe, who was the one that got all of us into smoking. He took us to her house because we were looking for a place to smoke, and her dad happened to let her smoke at her house. "Cool", I thought.WAS I EVER WRONGWe all soon learned that she is severely bipolar because she would have several outbursts in one smoking session, yelling and throwing tantrums, sometimes getting to the point where we would all just leave, or be asked to leave.It became very well-known to all of us that she was a very unstable and delusional person after a while.I'd also like to note that in this stage of our relationship with her, she was still somewhat held back and seemed to treat us with respect. She even seemed to be somewhat understanding, and an alright person, making us think that her tantrums were just a minor setback to an otherwise normal person.Well, the person who introduced us to her, Joe, was being somewhat persecuted in our group of friends in a way, because he had been using harder drugs. In my mind, and everyone elses however, he was still a friend. This is when I began to notice a change in 'Jans' personality and behavior. She started becoming very sour towards Joe, and not just in a mean way. It was like something would snap in her head and she would have a freakout, but in a different way. You could just tell from the look on her face, and she would start screaming and making all sorts of generalizations that werent true about him, but possibly based off of something that had been said or done. Some people went along with it, and some didnt, including me.She started becoming a very mean spirited person. As her house became the regular hangout, I remember her making comments to me about everyone else such as "They need me! They would be nothing without me! Without me they couldnt even smoke!" - and I just sorta ignored it, but still acknowledged to her that I understood what she was saying. I thought it was ridiculous, but I would still give her the benifit of the doubt of saying a sentence, usually by nodding my head or giveing a half hearted "...yeah".She would put down whoever wasnt there to try and get a reaction out of everyone, and even goes so far as to being cool with someone while we're all hanging out, and then as soon as the door shuts when they leave, start up on them.Anyways, after quite a bit of time, I started hanging out there everyday since I became an everyday smoker. (Although I could of smoked at many other different places, haha) As time went on Joe increasingly became 'the enemy' according to Jan.This kid seriously just minded his own business and I could never understand what it was about him that made her "just so upset". If anyone even said anything redeeming any portion of Joes existince as not being how she portrayed it to everyone in the group, she would get that look and that tone that she gets when she freaks out, and would say "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID OR SOMETHING?"Then one day she said to everyone in a big cheerful but cocky tone "Hey everyone, I talked to my dad and he says Joes not allowed here anymore! So tell him and stuff. Yeah."And that was pretty much the end of Joe in our group of friends. Everyday people would just be at Jans, and no one would leave to hang out with him, because she was always buying weed for everybody, and stocking her house full of food, offering it to everyone.Then, Joe moved, and since then shes always been borderline between treating me like the rest of my friends, or Joe. She brings up things I said, usually from things she asks me in private, and twist them around and unrealisticly generalize my statement until shes painted a big elaborate portrait of what a terrible person I really am. She would go so far as to do so while everyones trying to smoke, and when I correct her on what shes saying about me, she just freaks out like I've never seen before, and will yell "No! No! You blah blah blah", and then she'll just tell me to leave her house after shes done yelling. She'll just keep building off of things that arent reality at all, and sticking with it like a little kid, and it started bothering me that she would say stuff like that about me. Then I realized, this is exactly what she did to Joe.She continued to 'paint pictures' about me to all my friends, and even started following me to any new friends I had made, acting normal and then pulling the same shit me in front of them. I try to stay away from her as much as possible because she constantly freaks out on me, but theres just no getting away from her. Shes a person-holic,(Forgot the actual name of the syndrome) and upon hearing me say a name stops everything shes doing and goes "Whos that!?" "Oh! I wanna come!". Then, upon meeting the person and acting completely different than she does in front of me and the group of people that used to be my friends, she goes into a binge of indulging herself in their attention, and after a few weeks stops talking to them. Everyone left in her wake looks at me differently, and now, in 2006, my grand total of 2 friends hang out there everyday, and Im basicly left between spending my days alone or spending them in the presence of her, which is never an enjoyable time for me.I just dont know what to do. She basicly leeched onto my entire tree of friends, and just fucked my life up.
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An odd incident.
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First thing first you should stop smoking is what got you into this mess. Secondly, if your friends left you for weed they aren't really the friends you thought they were. This girl has some real mental issues than she has an addiction to people so leave her be if she is on you than push her off seperate yourself from that life beacuse it will end up killing you abiously Joe did the same. you might need a fresh start so keep that option opened. This girl has her problems so leave her be soon everybody will realize that.
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you mean like she started stalking you?you could call the cops on her ass.or just stay away from her as much as possible.or both,if she keeps following you.
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Yeah, thats what I was thinking.
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Trust me it will work for you. I use to smoke a blunt a week didn't help me out just closed my mine and if joe did it than you can do. Trust me this girl uses drugs and mind working to convince people to like her so stay away from both and you will be alright.
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Haha Ive been telling myself that, but everday I always end up smoking or drinking. Its kinda like I do that to preocupy my day as an escape, and I realized I should just fix whats causing me to want to escape.
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Yeh I know what you mean but smoking a blunt isn't really addictive to the body but it is to the mine all you need is will power and you will be able to quit. Yeh I use to do it for the heck of it too so I know what you mean.
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Haha well I used to just buy an ounce a day and just blaze joints to the head all day, and its definitely a willpower issue. Does anyone know about any serious health effects of weed? Because ever since I got big into smoking, it seems like my hair has been thinning a lot. I know weed lowers testosterone, and that male pattern baldness is caused by DHT or whatever the biproduct of it is, and ive been thinking that with my testosterone levels plummetting, and my body going through puberty (Im 16), that it may attribute to it. Ive had a lot of stress in my life also lately, and I tend to zone out a lot, and I think I may be pulling or damaging my hairs subconciously while zoning out (trich), but Im not sure what it is. Anyone else have any problems with hair while smoking?
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Yeah that happens because of blazing to it happen to me except mine got all cheap looking if you wanna put it at that. Well weed causes you to lose braincells and it also causes slower reactions for you need it to speed up your system. It can also make you fat from the constant eating and damages your lungs. Well about the zoning I don't think its because of somking becouse most of time your more focus or your senses are more acute at the moment. The zoning out is problaly caused by stress.
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Yeah, Ive got a really high stress level and I really cant seem to break from it. Haha and I meant an ounce a week. An ounce a day qould be quite a bit.
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Yeh i was about to ask you that to because I would have to say an ounce you are rich and crazy. Well about the stress I would really suggest a sport, working it always helps me clear my mind you are focused on something else and it would really help your health. you could also try reading or religion that helps too.
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Yeah, I decided to work out over the summer. Its kept my mind off of it and this is my second day not using a drug haha.Im planning on joining a gym, but I sometimes get bored while exercisng.
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Thats why I say do sports as well basketball, soccer, football, and anything else will do. This might help you meet new people too. Good with the not smoking keep yourself busy and you will get off it.