Most men have devoted substantial time thinking about the size of their dick. I've been there and return there often enough. And yet there aren't anywhere near as many threads or posts by women about this subject as there are by men!My opinion is that it's not going to be an issue to the vast majority of women UNLESS:1. She has a strong bias with regard to a particular size or range of sizes2. Your penis is so large (for her) that it hurts or causes some other kind of discomfort3. She knows that you're sensitive about the issue, so she tries to avoid the topic, or always tells you that your size is "perfect" when you ask her.I'd bet anyone here that the guys that you know who girls think are the hottest are no more likely to be hung than are the guys who can hardly get a date. How do I know that? Easy. My penis is 8" long and thick enough to fill the center of a toilet paper roll (which isn't really thick, but definitely not thin), I'm 6'1", 176 lbs., muscular build, broad shouldered, narrow waist and hips, long legs, have been offered gigs modeling underwear or posing nude, have been blatantly hit on by women and even men since I was a kid! So I SHOULD be getting laid left and right, correct? Far from it. I'm a virgin, have only kissed 3 girls and have never gone farther than feeling breasts, etc. The reason for this is really simple. It isn't because no women think that I'm cute, or that I'm gay. The reason is self-confidence and self-esteem.You guys thinking about your cock size or physique are setting yourselves up for trouble. Very few of you will end up obsessing about your body, but it makes no sense to put yourselves in a situation where you MIGHT end up that way. Forget about getting a bigger dick. It's clearly overrated. As for bulking up, I'd just say to do it if YOU will be happiest about the way that you look. Arnold said that when he got really big, alot of girls HATED it, but he didn't care and was a confident in himself as ever. He liked what he did to his body, and the women who liked his build were the only women he cared about in his mind.As for me, I just deal with this as a I go. It's easy to look at someone else and obsess about something about them which you believe makes them superior to you. But obsessing about it will get you nowhere, and when it comes to penis size, you really don't have much to obsess about anyway. Even more, it really feels miserable when the bulk of your self-esteem and self-confidence is rooted in your penis size and/or body type. I'm in that trap, and when you get caught in it, all that you do is size up other guys and spend a shitload of time trying to persuade yourself that your dick is just a big as his and your body is just as attractive. It's just crazy! VERY few women really want to deal with a guy who's this insecure. Trust me, I've been there more than a few times.One final analogy. I love performance driving. I used to love embarassing people with superior cars by weaving through traffic faster than them, taking turns faster, and being able to judge distances better (in other words, knowing that there is room when they think that there is no room). So I very rarely lost a traffic race to anyone, even if they drove a better car. To this day, I never feel intimidated by anyone I encounter on the road. I know that I can drive far better than most people. I do get nervous around people who are better skilled, but I never feel like I can't eventually beat them. The moral here is that the guy with the best car isn't likely to be the superior driver. Likewise, the guy with the big cock or the most muscular body isn't likely to be the guy who does the best with the ladies. The guy who is the best driver is the one who really understands how to drive a car, and the guy who is most successful with women is the one who understands how to interact with women. Having an impressive body is practically useless if you can't connect with a woman first. That is where I've failed miserably, and you can't really undo the damage quickly. I'm in my late 20's and am in worse shape now when it comes to women than I was when I was in my teens.Don't waste time thinking about your dick size or your build. Just learn to like youself enough to enjoy yourself.
Another penis size thread
Welcome to AfraidToAsk, morelykefun. That's a remarkable first post, and a lot to think about. I know there are many guys who are well endowed but feel they are too small, while other guys who are not well-endowed are perfectly confident. It seems self-confidence, or lack of it, is something guys often bring to their penis size, rather than take from it.I wonder if part of the problem is the whole idea of a race, a competition. Sex should be about having fun, not rating yourself against other guys.I look forward to reading more from you. And perhaps reading here can help you become better at connecting with women.