Honestly.. Why do good guys always finish last?

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OK.. I am 24.. and live in BC Canada.. I am a Paramedic... And I will be honest... I am not the best looking... I am overweight.... I have found this to be SOOOOOOOO true!!!! Why do good honest guys alway finish last? The girls go for all of the hot guys and ignor the not so hot guys... Do girls just love the bad boy thing that much? Are all girls that shalow? Girls just look at me and than look away go go after the guys that are going to use them and break there hearts.... So many people tell me that I am still young and just give it time... But you know what.... I hate to say this... But I see on a regular basis just how short life really is and I do not want to grow old alone...I found a girl that I truly love.. I would die for her.. I feel that she was put on this earth for me... She is so smart!!! so attractive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just everything about her... I just found out that she is now getting married ( she is 22 years old ) and I was only a back up or fall back plane.. .. .. I feel so alone most of the time... I fell that I am just meant to spend my life alone helping other peoples life's and just forget about mine... Any help that anyone could offer would be great!!!

Your not the best looking ay?
Beuty is in the eye of the behholder.(i hope i spelt rite :confused:)
Overweight. My sister was overweight and she went on a milkshake diet and lost what she wanted in 3 months :laughing: i think is was 30 kilos.
Honest guys dont finish last. i think its you only finish last becuase you dont look for girls that are your typ. You just look for hotties. They dont ignore you. You just dont tlk to them?
You say life is the short? But it will be the longest thing in your time.
Why dont you get a new look :0. ( i hope i havnt made you self consius :scream_cat:) This girl u tlk about is a bitch for putting u as a fall back plan :angry:

I think its stupid to go for a guy based on looks and I never haveI go for whats inside

ok... It is not my choice to be overweight.. I have a medical condition that it takes for ever for me to loose it... And I do not look for the hotties!!! I look for someone that is willing to acept me for me... But trust me.. If U were over weight.. U would understand a lot better!!!! When u go into a mall or resturant and little kids will say ... "wow mommy... look at that fat guy" ..or just have the balls to come right up to you and sya.. " Why are you so fat?".... As far as I am concerned.. If U are not overweight... U have no biz telling people that they should go on a diet.. It is one of thoes.. walk a mile in someones else's shoes thing... :wink:

I never believed in that saying because it's wrong.

I don't think it's wrong to look at a person's problem from their point of view, which is basically what that saying means. However, that doesn't mean you should literally experience what that person is going through... You should just try to visualize it.And really, it's all in how you give off your... Energy or aura, or whatever, for lack of a better word. Because so many guys give off this I-don't-care vibe, or antsy vibe, or they act uncomfortable... It's nice when a guy focuses on you, and is comfortable in his own skin. Which is why, I think, so many girls aren't attracted to guys that are not hotties... Those guys know they aren't hot, but they also aren't comfortable with it.

A lot of women are just as shallow as guys. It becomes more and more evident as I get older. And most women I know admit to it.As far as the nice guys finish last thing... let me look up my posts on this. The problem isn't that you're nice. There are characteristics a common nice guy lacks which in turn creates a less attractive personality for a potential mate. Research, work hard, and become the alpha male my friend.

You wrote some very interesting posts on this topic in this thread.

K.. about the alpha male thing... If U want to be a Paramedic... U have.. HAVE!!! to be a alpha male (or female).. If you do not have the in your personality.. U just can not do the job... When U first start the job.. People that have been doing the job for a long time look for that trait... If U don't have it... They send you packing... But U can tell when a girl see's you walking down the street and her eyes get big.. and stares at you.. If there are a couple girls together.. as soon as you pass them.. they turn to each other a wisper something and laugh.. granted not evey person does this.. but if you look at the percentage that do do this to people.. it is like 85% TO 15%... It is the honest truth... If U are not over weight... U have completly NO!!!!!! idea what it is like... Grab any magazine on the shelf at your local store.. and try to find a pic of a person in it that does not look like have been man made in a lab or something... It really gets under you skin really quickly!!! If there is any girl that you meet that says that she hates guys because they just end up hurting you or are after the sex... Look at there taste in guys.. the bad boy is there choice.. and they just keep going back time and time again for that type... And people like me are just pushed aside like a piece of trash.... Talk to your friends... Think about your personal experences... U will soon see my point .. :frowning: it sucks!!!!

But U can tell when a girl see's you walking down the street and her eyes get big.. and stares at you.. If there are a couple girls together.. as soon as you pass them.. they turn to each other a wisper something and laugh.. Paranoia will destroy ya. Plus, girls do this so guys will NOTICE them... And look at them... And see how cool they are and see how fun they are to be with. They do it to attract guys.>If U are not over weight... U have completly NO!!!!!! idea what it is like... Grab any magazine on the shelf at your local store.. and try to find a pic of a person in it that does not look like have been man made in a lab or something... It really gets under you skin really quickly!!!Yeah, and girls can sense that lack of confidence. Since you have very little self confidence, I suggest you learn how to act like you do have it.>Talk to your friends... Think about your personal experences...What do you think I'm doing? I remember those guys that girls cooed about how hot they were, and then I'd see them walking down the street and think that they weren't hot, at all, more like average. And then I'd talk to them for like 5 minutes, and then I would suddenly understand what all those girls were cooing about... This guy WAS hot. It's all in how you present yourself.

Good guys do not always finish last it just depends. Everything works out in the end though. Most of the bad guys I know lost their girlfriends in a few months because they were tired of it.

I used to be very overweight from 8 to 16. That's where the hard work comes in. I got into the gym and pumped a lot of iron. I didn't even change my eating habits. All that energy was being used in the gym and then some.Most of my guy friends are overweight and they still get a lot of play. They don't let it get to them and they concentrate on what's important.

Thanks Ineligible.

i am sure some women think the same way and yes it is saddly a judgemental world that we live in ... i also believe that the situation involoving the models in tv shows and so on * the advertising of beautiful men and women* is making the population feel that this is beautiful which is not always the case !life maybe short in some cases and long in others but if you keep thinking in that way u will never enjoy the time you are given ...in my personal opinion everytime i walked out of the gym and someone gave me a look due to my size the look i would think to myseelf or something at least i can think to myself i am making a concience effort !!! < as for little kids they are too young to understand and its hard sometimes for them and some adults to think before they speak>and as for the not having a girl yet maybe you just didnt find her but i am sure she is their somewhere hunn i really do !!

okay, i mean this in the nicest way possible, but please, stop being so pathetic.girls are attracted to various qualities in men. power and confidence probably rank above everything else, and they go hand in hand. Why do you think rockstars get laid so much? Look at Steve Tyler. The man is hideous and tacky but he's probably had more sex than everyone on this forum combined. It's because hes in a position of power- and he shows his confidence. when he's up there singing he doesnt need to talk or act a certain way because his confidence is displayed. Women are attracted to men who take control and are superior to other men- it doesnt take a genius to figure that out.But, im guessing you're not a rock star like Steve Tyler. so you need to show your confidence in some other way. but you cant fake confidence- you learn it. You develop it by going up to women in bars and talking to them, and doing things like that. Of course, if you're overweight/poorly groomed, you're going to have to fix that. You probably arent that bad looking but you cant pass off confidence if you have man boobs and pit stains. If you have dandruff, ugly clothes, a patchy beard, a bad haircut, etc, these are things you need to work on. THEN you start talking to women and becoming confident.As for your whole 'nice guys finish last thing', no, they dont really. Most nice guys eventually find a girl, but if you want to go out with a lot of women, you need to start acting like a bit of a dick. Nothing smells worse to a woman than desperation, so think the opposite of desperation. When you're talking to a woman, act like you're the kind of guy that has sex with so many girls that you dont care what comes of the conversation with her. Be a little unattentive, a little rude, etc, and subconciously, she'll wonder, why isnt he trying to impress me? That kind of stuff drives girls crazy. And occasionally, be a little sensitive, a little caring, and then go back to being a dick. That is how you keep a womans interest. Seriously, stop being a bitter wimp and start imitating those guys you see who sleep with loads of women. You may not like how women think but you're gonna have to deal with it if you dont want to be alone. And tough break about that girl who's getting married, but think about it- you pined over her and made her your universe like a wimp while that other guy was probably coming home late and ignoring her, and then occasionally being nice and KEEPING HER INTEREST. that is why you're alone and he's with her. figure it out.-ak

ok...no not all girls are shallow. there are many guys out there who are shallow as well...but you know what? they will soon start to realize that looks mean very little in a relationship. yes, women (AND MEN) tend to look for that good looking guy or girl, but its only a physical attraction (MOST of the time). in my opinion, there is that special someone for everyone out there. you will find her. dont worry about it. i honestly dont look for looks in a relationship. sure looks are almost like a bonus, but who needs bonuses? im sure you have A LOT of other amazing qualities that will get you far in life. i hope i helped you.

In reply to: but you cant fake confidence Sure you can. You just "act" confident. If you act confident for long enough, it will start to become a part of who you are.

yeah, but i mean there are certain situations that demand genuine confidence, and all im saying is if you havent developed real confidence ( even through acting it as you said ) then your true colors will show. like, for example, talking to a hot girl that comes over to you- if you dont know how to act confident you will probably say something lame.

As they say, practice makes perfect.

In reply to:practice makes perfect just read the last part of my sig.