This is mad messed up lol. Ok you know when you get over someone like a friend who may have done something wrong or a family member etc etc. And you're all good but then they all of a sudden pop up from nowhere and act like nothing happened. How do you deal with that? Because I have this.... someone who used to be a really close... someone but that someone did some things that we're bad and well bad lol and it's been like months. And I was all happy today but then I got the stupid phone call. I should have left the darn phone alone. I hate you phone. I hate you hand. I hate you connection for not getting disconnected. I hate you caller ID for deceiving me lol. But anyway still. It was whack and that... person brought up all the so called good memories and crap. But no no. I'm sorry. I remember perfectly well. And I'm revengeful lol. And now my whole attitude changed because of this person. And this person wants to meet and start over. Start what over? Life. PFFT! Whatever though lol. I'm just wondering how you guys deal with stuff like that before I get all... cringy. K thanks
Trying to forget someone
Holy cow, I hear ya. There are three people in my life that I will never, ever trust again... And one of them just doesn't get it... She called me a couple of weeks ago, wanting to get together sometime. I pretended we were all good, and then told her that I couldn't do anything... I was "busy." I pussyfooted out, true, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I just wanted her out of my life. She tried calling a couple more times, and eventually stopped, when I kept saying I was very busy or grounded.
lol ok then I need to try something like that. thanks
Jesus?think about that.Don't hold grudges.Why is it that you can't forgive and forget? True, you can't forget. I know I can't forget. I can't forget stupid things, like what I ate for breakfast on feburary 23rd, 1997. I can't forget a person who owes me money, just the same, I can't forget a person I owe money to. Why can't you forgive? Why try to forget them? Was the one bad thing they did worse than all the good memories you had with them?Sure, I am a wet blanket and I am old, but you won't forget what I say. Why? because you are a good person, and a good person doesn't forget. They remember and cherrish, and they want to forget. Perhaps this person doesn't want to bring up the bad because they are afraid of getting into another fight, or they don't know how to apologize. apologize, be thankful you know that person, and ask them why they can't do the same. If you are religious, tell them of the teachings of Jesus, and tell them how he forgave, and asked all people to repent their sins. Ask of this person nothing, but give all to them. for this is the only way to be true to the teaching's of Christ, and at the same time, live by His word.This will make you a better person throughout life. When you read this from the bible, you won't recognize it sometimes, but this is a good example of "turning the other cheek."Turn the other cheek, and be thankful this person is in yoru life, through good and bad. There will not be another person that can take their place. For every person is a gift. Gifts should not be forsaken.I know you'll do the right thing, you are intelligent, and reverent. Those qualities are a part of you, and who you are. Talking to this person is the only way. feelings get hurt on both sides, so be understanding, and give your love to all, regardless of how they act.I'm proud of you. If only I were as intelligent as you, at your age.
But I don't want to forgive someone who tried to hurt me in my worst moments. A supposed friend. Ok fine so I'll forgive. But I won't forget. Even though I want to. But I won't throw myself back at this person just to hurt me again.
Ok, so you are afraid of what wil happen if you do forgive and forget... That's fair...
Well... How about this...
Tell them exactlyt what you told me. IOt would save a lot of miscommunication and perhaps everyone's feelings. Tell them you don't trust them anymore. Tell them you are susipicious.
hey, what is the worst that will happen? They will know your true feelings, you won't be lying to them, and things will either wain, or they will forget you, and things wil be back to normal.
The truth never hurts worse than livinign a lie.
Go to it...