I am beginning to feel slightly dependant on my very good friend Kate ( I am changing the name of this girl so she remains anonymous). I have known her for 3 years .Our relationship is very odd. In a nutshell, We are not dating, but we show our feelings and attractions toward each other, and act on impluse with each other. (This is not including sex...for now). We have told each other that we have feelings for one another, and have talked about dating before.My situation is this...I went on a trip with a friend a few weeks ago. It was only for 2 weeks, but during that week I felt slightly depressed because I had not seen Kate at all during that time.(I figured 2 weeks was a good enough amount of time to miss somebody though) It was not major depression by any means, I was still having a very good time. Now it has only been 3 days, and I am still feeling that same feeling. I am going to see her tomorrow hopefully because she is leaving for a few weeks to visit her relatives. I'd like some advice on this, because I do not like feeling dependant on somebody that does not feel that like towards me. I know one way I could eliminate the dependancy feelings, and that would be to just avoid her long enough so I would not rely on her. But in doing that, I would probably lose her friendship, and I would never want to do that. I did not mean to make this such a long post, I am just typing what I'm thinking. I would be very appreciative to any helpful suggestions. I also understand that there may be nothing that I can do really, and that is alright with me. I will learn to be ok with it, because I really do enjoy how things are going right now, but I believe it would be better if I could feel more independant.
Well i would say while kate is gone how about you try and call her while she is gone or something. before she leaves talk to her about possibily being able to call her on the phone and talk to her. Ask her if she wants to leave to go on the trip, if she is not someone that really comes flat out and says things and she just says no she really doesn't want to go, there is a good chance that she is probably going to miss you and that is the reason. like i said see if she can talk on the phone or get to a computer while she is over there so you guys can still talk. While my girlfriend went on a 2 week trip, we really were missing each other hardcore she said she even cried because she wanted to come back home to see me, but we talked to each other on the phone at least once every couple days and it really helped out a bit.