Beginning to date.

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Nope. One thing I found out early on is you can't really script anything because every girl is different.As an experiment, I set up 3 dates on a weekend. 2 on Saturday and 1 on Sunday. I learned a couple good things from this weekend.First thing I learned is don't double book. 2 dates in one day is demanding. Plus, I could have probably had sex with date number one but I had to leave because time for date number 2 was coming up.Then I tried something that's kinda funny. Date #1 I took her to this italian restaurant in town. I was being my normal self, opening doors, making fluid conversation, blah blah blah. So, we're sitting in the restaurant and we're talking. I'm throwing out a lot of jokes. She's laughing we're having a good time. It was great. I took a mental not of what jokes she really thought was funny and what didn't go well. What things she responded to well and what things she didn't. As well as being very aware of what I was doing. Posture, tone of voice, etc.Date #3. Same thing. Brought her to the same italian restaurant I ate at yesterday. (I don't mind because they have a killer linguini alfredo haha). Kept up fluid conversation, opened doors for her. So, I tried to use a lot of the positive mental notes I acquired from date #1... At one point I thought to myself, "this isn't working as well as date #1". Some of the jokes I was telling was over her head. She wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed. So, once I noticed this I changed the conversation into something light with less substance. All of a sudden, I was a big hit. She was laughing and enjoying herself. Cool.Moral of the story. There is no script. The beginning of the story may be similar to all the rest... but it depends on how much I've already known about her.

Well then, it's a good thing that none of this is scripted, otherwise I might have the impression that you're closing a business deal, or planning tactics and strategy to fight a war, rather than find a partner who you can...how can I put this?....love; love in a romantic way, as a co-equal, rather than commanding a conquest.You'd make Sun Tzu proud. I wonder if you've ever been at the other end of such a conquest.

It seems she enjoyed the night! No moonlight, but we did stare gaze for a long time. We fell asleep at her house, nothing happend. But we both had a great time.the hot passionate make-out sessions was godlike!

The goal is to devolop a large mental library... for lack of a better term.If this kind of girl does this, then do this.orIf this kind of girl is with you and this happens, then do thisSo, it's not really scripted in a way because there's so many scripts.Right now, I'm not looking for a partner that complements me well. If she comes around then yay for me. But I've decided to wait until I start looking for "the girl". Most girls my age up to 25 have trouble controlling themselves on a conscious level.

Congrats you little player you!

With a big enough flow chart, or an expert system, you'll have this problem licked.> Most girls my age up to 25 have trouble controlling themselves on a conscious level. I can't remember back that far...you'll have to elaborate. I know that most of them are housebroken.

What can i say? It's a gift!

lol. After studying some things about neurobiology, female reactions to chemicals released by the brain, and compare/contrasting the difference between picking up younger and older women... I've concluded most younger women are ruled by their subconscious part of their brain. (I'd have to look up the exact name, but it's the part near the spinal column I believe) That is the part that is affected by instinct and the chemicals that are released by the brain the most. As they get older, they learn to use their conscious part of their brain. The difference between the two is the conscious part of the brain has a "defense mechanism" as opposed to the subconscious which does not.

So, if you don't mind, can you run us through the date. What worked, what didn't work? My friends love it when I come back from my dates because I've always got a story to well "with good information" is how they put it. haha.

I don't think your talking about the subconscious, so you must be talking about the limbic system (the primitive, reptilian part of the brain).If women up to age 25 don't have their cerebral cortex engaged, I don't know what to say about men of the same age. They must have enough brain function to keep the heart beating and respiriation going, and that's it.I tell you one thing: If I were a woman reading what you wrote, I'd be highly offended. Now I understand why your approach to dating is akin to training seals, or observing the behavior of rats in a maze.

I just did what people told me! We went to a movie, then to this really nice resaurant. I'm too young to go to a fancy one. We went to this open lake place, sat under a tree and stargazed. There was little kissing, when we got back to her place, the make out broke out! I let her instigate most of the things, if i did, it be harrasment Overall, we both enjoyed this and we shall go on another date on Saturday.

Younger women can get offended by it... but the older ones I talk to admit to lacking general sense when they were younger. Of course, I first say it the way I said it here, and then I relate it to a real life situation.If you look into a bunch of studies, you'll find a lot of interesting facts about it.I recommend looking into Dr. Helen Fisher, a Research Professor of Anthropology at Rutgers University. Her work is pretty awesome.I tend to think on a very scientific and mathematical level. Anything that is socially involved should be self-aware and subject to observation. Otherwise, your just blind fumbling through the dating world.

Cool. Already set up the next date. Awesome.

I dont need math and science for date do i? Anywhom, now we just hang out and chat. But i have to over come my fear or speaking to her. Once I can do that, more options become available.

Dated a lot. Only a handful struck me as being girlfriend quality. But, what I am talking about isn't majorly based on my own personal experience. Rather, it's based on the information I have gathered from people who are much more experienced than myself. From what I have experienced, it is true. But at my age, I need someone with years behind their belt to back myself.

In reply to: I dont need math and science for date do i? If you get technical with it, a lot of things can be related to a science or math. I often use percentages throughout real life situations. The chances of this happening are greather than the chances of that happening for instance. And any observation or trial and error can be considered an all time working science experiement.I wish I knew a better way to word all of this, but I am lacking at the moment. But, I can tell you this.When you're concentrating on having a good date, there are certain things that will work for certain women and certain things that won't. With the experience and knowledge, you can manipulate things with social engineering... BUT when it comes to searching for true love, the rules are thrown out of the window. The formula that creates a love that lasts is the natural mesh of the personalities of the two people involved. Hence the term TRUE love.