Ok, my situation is this, me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. We have had sex for a year now, anyways, she recently started wanting to try something with a girl (hasn't yet) and I have no problem with that, at least the girl part. I just get jealous over the idea of someone else pleasuring her... And so I asked her if it would be OK if I had only the RIGHT to do something with a girl as long as it wasn't sex, since she has that right. Does anyone find this unfair?Also, I don't know what to do anymore, we are getting into fights over stupid little things and I don't know, we are going to be taking a small break when I go away for about a week, hope that helps, but I just try to make her happy but I don't know how to cause I keep hurting her... Also she keeps bringing up stuff with another girl, she says she is just using it as an example of how she feels about me doing stuff with another girl, but I find it unfair if someone else can pleasure her, but not me, just the right, not like I have a plan to.
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I'm so confused...
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So, is she going off and having sexual encounters with another girl?
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She hasn't yet no, but she is very interested in doing so. I don't care about that at all, it's just the idea of another person pleasuring her, but I don't want to stop her, because I need to try to be more open about things like this, since early in our relationship I kind of trapped her with my own insecurities. So i'm trying to keep an open mind, to an extent of course.
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Well if she is to be allowed have sex with other people then so should you, but having such an open relationship can be very dangerous. Temptation is at its highest and there would be a great risk of her leaving you for someone else or vice versa.
My suggestion is that if she wants to have sex with another girl, be a part of it. If you share a new experience like that it could help recatch her interest in you, it will show your flexibility.
But threesomes are always dangerous, if you're not completely secure with your relationship it can do a lot of damage and from what you've said I don't think you'd be happy about it. Altho a threesome isn't the ideal solution, I think it would be beter than the two of you going off and getting seperate partners.
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Yeah I see what you are saying there, I have given her the idea of something like that, but she is just jealous about it.
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Jealous? She is the one who says she wants to get with another girls and she is the jealous one?
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Believe me, I know exactly what you are getting at.
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I may be wrong here so don't take my word for it, but I suspect that she may be hiding something.
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I don't think she is, she has never given me much impression of that. But hey not all relationships last forever, but I want to try to make this one last as long as I can. Cause I love her like hell.
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Wow, heh, I guess that's one way of putting it. Well like I said, relationships don't always last forever, but she's proved a million times over she loves me, so doesn't hurt to at least try to keep it around.