If you leave a message and she doesn't call back..

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..should you call back? If so, how long should you wait?Any help is truly appreciated..

How long ago did you leave a message? What did you say? Did you ask her out? Admit your undying love for her? Ask her for a quick fuck?

Okay, I'll explain the whole thing.I've liked this girl for a while, so the day before yesterday I called her. She answered, but she was out drinking with a friend, so I didn't want to ask her out to a movie or anything while she's drunk, so I said I would call her the next day. So i called her the next day, which was yesterday, and I got her voice mail and I left a message saying that I got off work at 9:30 and asked if she could call me any time after then. I haven't heard from her, and it's 5:10 the next day.

Well, it could be possible that she hasn't been notified that she has a message. She may feel awkard cause she doesn't feel like that with you. She may be embarassed or something because she missed your call/invitation.Its only been a day, she may be trying to think of a good thing to say when/if she calls you back. If she doesn't call back in another day, then I'd start to worry. Don't guess what she is thinking, if she hasn't said no then its not a no. Just wait a bit longer.

That still doesn't answer the question of when (or if) I should call back, lol. But thanks for the help, I really appreciate it

It sorta does. I dunno if you should or not, but if you do decide to call her back my suggestion is to wait another day.

Oh, and another question.. when I call her back, should I mention the message or not? Thanks..

Yeah, but mention it off hand. "Oh, I left a message on your machine the other day.Did ya get a chance to listen to it?"Or something along those lines, I'm not great with articulating my thoughts.

This won't be a help to you now, but for future reference. Set up a time when you're going to call her."Okay, well, I'll call you at 6 tomorrow night."I don't bother leaving a message and I call once. If she's looking forward to hearing from you, she'll be ready for that call at 6.

This is coming from personal experience, but there are some types of people who lack good manners of good social etiquete. They are the kind of people who like to act on impulse and don't think too deeply about things. This is not to say she is disinterested in you, she just hasn't been instilled with proper manners. I personally hate people like this and don't give them a second thought. I went out with a girl for several weeks and she would take several days to reply a mobile sms message or wouldn't call me back, so I just told her that I can't put up with that. Now I have found a girl who gives me proper attention, she doesn't over do it, but atleast she has the common courtesey to get back to me! You will learn the hard way, and I have learnt to have no tolerance for girls like that. Good luck!

We call those kinds of people flakes...just not relationship material at all. If she's a flake, don't waste your time. Plenty more fish in the sea.

Well that was a couple of weeks ago now, has she called yet?

I ended up talking to her, and we actually went out on a date last night, so it's all good now Now I'm just wondering how long I should wait to call her to ask for another one, lol.

Damn, dude, didn't you get a copy of the rule book with your dick???If you're interested and you had a good date--and you're certain she did, as well--call her immediately and tell her what a good time you had and that you'd like to go out again, but...let her set up the next one! If she sets it for too far in the future (say a week or more) and there are all kinds of reasons she has why it can't be sooner, say "maybe we should just play it by ear," cut your losses and leave her alone. If she's really interested and wasn't just busy or playing along, she'll call you. If, however, she just wants to play games and get you to chase her before she commits, you're better off without that one....'cause it'll never change. In that case, give her the chance to grow up and let someone else deal with the heartache.

Females like to hear back from you if it was a good date. In fact, a few days ago my co-worker was complaining that some guy she went out on a date with about a week and a half ago decided to finally give her a call. And then her and a few other girls in the office started talking about all the stuff they think about when the guy doesn't call soon after a date.

Personally I cant stand the nonsense of somebody waiting around for days and days in an obvious attempt not to look too keen. It's so false. Better just to send her a quick text to say you enjoyed yourself and if she did too she'll get back to you.

I mean no offense to your friend, but do you know if she put out on that date? A week and a half later? Seems to me like he was hard-up and looking for a sure-thing...But, I could be wrong....although I am a guy.

Nah, I met the guy and he's pretty much just clueless about the whole dating thing. She didn't have sex with him on the first date. Too classy for that.