firstly do i still get to post in this section as im 20? 2ndly. im not sure where my life is going...im so shy, i find talking openly to be people difficult, i work and i have a few friends there...but some are just people i talk to to make the day bearable and i feel most people there just look at me and think im a loner or miserable or just dull (which i sometimes feel i am). i want to go back to college. but i just dont know what i want to do and i just worry so much about making friends again and i just found it so hard last time i tried...i just flunked things and sunk back into my shell. i know people say just let go and dont worry. but im just so self concious and i really find things difficult at times. i want people who i can spend time with and go out with and laugh with and really i never get that. i go out drinking sometimes with people i know from highschool but i still dont find i really enjoy it and i get bored and i struggle to talk in a pub environment cos i cant really make myself heard over the noise so i dont bother. i dont really know if there are any qustions here or just me rambling...but any suggestions would be helpful. how do shy people make friends? how do they interact? cheers
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Shyness/ popularity
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seriously the only thing to do if just not care. im not a shy person, mainly because i really dont care about what people think, and thats how i made my friends. i mean seriously, if u make yourself look like a fool, people arent gonna say that your weird, theyre gonna think your fun and like to have a good time. but if your shy and never talk, people are going to think something is wrong with you, and thats when theyre not going to want to talk to you or be your friend. sooo just loosen up and say "the hell with what people think" --hope this helps!
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everybodys different, some are like you, loud and bubbly, and it not a bad thing, but others are like eddie, shy and quiet, but it doesnt mean that people will think you're boring. if you're quiet, it's the way you are, there's not much you can do about it overnight. it can be built upon and developed. i used to be quite shy and quiet, still am in strange situations, but i have developed it and have slowly come out of my shell. eddie, you just need to build up on your confidence, it takes time but it can be done. don't change who you are just so people will have a different 1st opinion of you.
go to college with a positive attitiude, knowing that you will make friends, everybody does. when i go to uni, i won't know anybody, completely new place, but i know that i will make friends, bin told it almost impossible not to! and you will be the same, you will find you have the same interets as other people, starting with you guys taking the same course. there are so many different courses these days, there wil be something that takes your interest.
you're a great person, fine as you are, many people love you for who you are, it'll get better for you, it's just the way you are. i've probably not made any sense, but i know what i mean! hehe.
take care hun
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hey eddie,i'm in your boat man .it's not easy,but im sure it works out.i'll wait and see,i suppose,casue im sure there's no quick fix answers.
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Noone can say anything to make it easier for you. You know exactly what needs to be done.I was there once. At school i was really self consious etc and it was obvious. I was quiet, shy but i did get on with most people, i dont have an unlikeable personality.It probably wasn't till after i finnished collage that i just realised that i was a fookin class guy. I was funny, i attracted women without even realising how i did it, i was self consious about my looks especially but when i realised it didn't really matter. Noone ever mentions my appearance, its more my problem than everyone elses but once it clicked i just 'let go' and now im a popular, respected and desirable bloke.Making new friends is always tough. I'm not particuarly in your face type person and making friends can be a problem, but just make sure people know who you are, be cool and people will come to you.Just realise that most people out there are in the same boat as you. Very few people are socially confident y'know.I walk around with a hugely confident attitude. I walk with my head up and if anyone looks at me i'll usually hold their gaze longer than the'll hold mine, its a power thing but it makes you feel big and it helps build yourself up. Next time you go into town, just try and hold onto peoples gazes and make them loose eye contact first, it'll make you feel better With group stuff, just listen attentivly to whats going on, if you see someone not so involved too talk to them. If you can just get in there, seriously, noone cares about your self consiousness just say whats on your mind.Its entirely up to you. You just gotta realise that noone gives a shit. When you look at someone there probably thinking about not making a bad impression or not being funny too. Everyones the same. You don't care or know exactly what hes thinking like he doesen't know or care what your thinking. It quite simply doesen't matter. Stop trying to please everyone, please yourself, chances are people will come to you.