Allright, heres my storyMe and my girlfriend have been dating 8 months, were both 13. We have kissed and madeout on my couch and I like her a whole lot. People are amazed that a 13 year old can stick with 1 girl for 8 months (1 week till 9). But, I know many of my 13-14 year old friends have gotten Hand jobs and Blow jobs and have fingered there girlfriend (note: Im not a band jumper, just saying i know they;ve done it). And i really wanna try this. I wanna hold onto my virginity tho, so sticking to Hj's Bj's and fingering for now. Ive been wanting to do this for about a month but been too nervous to ask. I dont want to just be kissing her and reach for her pants, thats not right to just jump it on her. Now what im asking is, How can i tell her? Im just nervous that it will effect the relationship, but we love each other alot too so i think we'll get through itCouple questions too:1. Any tips on fingering her for the first time? (100% sure shes a virgin)2. Does it hurt the girl most times? How can i make it better for her?3. How to ask her, i wanna be kind and give her the option to say no and forget about it too.Thanks everyone!
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Should i go for it?
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Quote:But, I know many of my 13-14 year old friends have gotten Hand jobs and Blow jobs and have fingered there girlfriend (note: Im not a band jumper, just saying i know they;ve done it). And i really wanna try this.LOL!As for your last question, you can start off by asking, "How do you feel about...?" or "What's your opinion on...?". Before you start doing anything, it's best to ask first. As for questions one and two, I'm far too lazy to copy and past links. Search around the Female Genitalia thread. I'm sure you'll find something recent.
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Im deff gonna ask her first. I always want her permission, but thats exactly my question, how do i go about doin it?I like what you said, mind to elaborate on that a bit?
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"How do you feel about mutual masturbation?""What's your opinion on oral sex?""Do you feel like we are ready for that kind of stuff?"I'm not sure how much more I can elaborate. Just use those question starters and listen to what she says.
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Asking is so awkward, I guess it's probably the way to go, but I usually just go by feeling. When your making out with her try lightly brushing your hand against her stomach and slowly going lower until your hands are brushing against her inner thighs. By now she's probably going to be extremely turned on so if you ask your bound to get the answer you want
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Quote:Asking is so awkward, I guess it's probably the way to go, but I usually just go by feeling.I can see where you're coming from. Generally speaking, young teen girls are more shy from sexual activity than boys are. Going by feel can work or it can go the wrong way. It all depends on the girl. So, it's up to the OP on how he feels is best go about this, since he obviously knows her better than anyone else here.
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To be perfectly honest I wouldn't. Me and my ex dated for 9 months at 13 and that's all we did. Now this is a perfect example of what you shouldn't do.My next girlfriend however. only knowing her a month, and only dating her for 3 days, we had sex and have been going out for little over a year. And I can tell you, innocent relationships own hands down.While fingering and such isn't going to hurt anyone(if you're careful) it can easily slip into something else.1.Cut your finger nails.2.Make her wet, it's impolite to try to finger her if she's not :P.3.can't help you there, I have a habbit of just falling into those things
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Originally Posted By: TheFallenLightMy next girlfriend however. only knowing her a month, and only dating her for 3 days, we had sex and have been going out for little over a year. And I can tell you, innocent relationships own hands down.I'm confused. How is having sex with a girl you went out with three times, more innocent than masturbation?
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Ok, well i just sent her an e-mail about it, i was polite and said that i didnt just wanna get into her pants, i really like her. I hope it all works out, thanks for the help guys. Ill keep you updated
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That's very nice, and I hope it works out well for both of you!
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E-mail may not have been the best way to ask her, but that's alright. Good luck and enjoy the times to come.