Whats with this woman ??

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ya he paritcipated, she gave him head while she was watching me. ( geeze in retrospect that sounds so sick!!, But it was fun at the time) Lemme explain before you throw rocks at me. I was married 15 years and when we split and I started dating and looking thru the online personal ads. I was shocked at the whole dating scene, so much casual sex, one nighters, couples looking for a third, bi-sexual women looking for couples or other women, websites catering to bdsm and alternative lifestyles... i was like " whoa !! things have changed!!". So maybe I'm just kinda making up for lost time, wasted years, discovering what's out there, making mistakes and discovering all over again. I can't say that anything is do is particularly moral or right or wrong, but I never go out of my way to cause hurt or upset to anyone.As for marriage breakdown. Ya it is morally wrong I guess to cam secretly with a married woman, but if she is doing that, If she is doing it voluntarily, the marriage is damaged already and seeing my cock on cam isnt gonna make her run out and get a divorce and leave her hubby and kids. ( well, unless she was REALLY impressed with what she saw LOL).Ok, Im rationalizing.

It's unlikely to make her run out and file for divorce (no offence to your cock here!) but if he were to walk in unexpectedly and get an eyefull it might send him straight to the lawyers office! And you totally ignored my point about creating emotional distance in the marraige - ya bollocks! :smile:

Dont worry about me throwing stones though, I'm not a stone thrower, and no paradigm of virtue either, as I've said. I can imagine the dating scene must have been a shock after 15 years alright, ha ha. Sure, fifteen years ago we hadnt got the fucking internet, and now people can reveal their sexual selves in a way that just wouldnt have been possible in the personals! (could you imagine trying to place some of the adds on the net today in a newspaper 15 years ago, you couldnt possibly leave a return address, you'd have the police at your door, ha ha!)

I'm just touchy about the whole subject of infidelity etc, cause I found out a couple of years ago that in the first six months or so of my current relationship my partner was unfaithful to me. I dont think it's something you ever fully get over, to be honest. I'm not in fear of it happening again, but there's still the feeling, as I've spoken about in another thread, that if he'd loved me the way I do him from the start it never would have happened :frowning:

It's outragously insulting too, since I've met two of the three women he fucked around with and they are both dogs a good 10/15 years older than me. Now I know a lot of women around the 40/45 mark look after themselves but these two werent in that group, two ugly fucking hags, and I thought so before I ever found out about his infidelities with them, so I know it's not just the jealousy speaking. Now I've gone on a rant about my own issues.. I suppose it's still bugging me on some level..

Yes but maybe if he came in and discovered her it would open the channles of communication, let him realize there is a problem !! I could save their marriage by jerking off for her !!I hear ya about the infidelity thing. in fact thats why my wife and I split up, she started banging some guy she met on the net. And yes, I was kinda joking in my opening lines here, but there is a hint of truth to it. i had no idea my marriage had gotten so bad that my wife would look online for men. I tried to talk to her and suggested counselling after the truth came out. So you see there maybe a bit of truth in my wiseass opening comments. it just didnt work for me in my marriage.

She sounds horribly weird! Run!!I have no clue now what the question is now, if you read what people wrote you!

"I have no clue now what the question is now, if you read what people wrote you!"Huh? I read all the replies, thats why I posted this in the first place ( although we seem to have gotten off track a little), I was interested in other peoples perspective on the situation.

Yeah I suppose you could look at it that way. It would make a good magazine headline for those true life stories; 'Net perving saved my marraige'!I'd imagine camming is the sort of behaviour that is likely to get kind of addictive though. Did you ever start to spend more and more time at it? And did you ever get into the habit (or even get tempted to give it a go) of just going on the internet looking for total strangers and just having a wank or whatever and never talking to that person again (the virtual equivilant of cruising/dogging I suppose!) I think most experiences in life have a sort of ripple/ladder effect, where one thing leads to another - dont want to be putting ideas into your head though, ha ha!

That's what i ment . Anyway, all this just confused me about your situation, so good luck with this! I still say, Run away!

guess im just an old romantic but the idea of camming for some stranger seems kinda empty and pointless. LOL. It's not like its a hobby of mine or something I do on a regular basis, it's just something that occurs now and then with a friend or 2 I chat with, if the conversation gets steamy or whatever and we're both feeling like getting off. I think doing it habitually or on a regular basis, especially for strnagers woiuld eventually get boring.It's like friends sometimes go out to dinner or catch a movie.. well, me and my freinds sometimes get off on cam together LOL.

As for "run away"... we havent talked since out post meeting emails, several months ago. Life's too short to compliate it with wierdos.

In reply to:Life's too short to compliate it with wierdos. Well said! Lol!

Yeah, I think the strangers thing would be kind of empty, souless. My bloke wont get into the phone sex thing, which is a dreadful pity, as his voice was made for it. pm me if bible girl gets in touch, ha ha, I'd be interested to hear how that goes! Better head off now, am goin crusin on the webcam eh eh I mean makin the dinner, ha ha! bye xx

oh sure bash my cam wackin then admit you are a phone sex perv LOL. I tried phone sex once with a woman I was dating, it was too silly, I started laughing, she wasnt impressed. I somehow doubt I'll be hearing from bible girl, maybe i should mail her. maybe she sorted out her confusion, wouldn't mind gettin nekkid with her if sh'es resolved those damn moral issues.

how old is she? alot of the people in my church struggle with decisions they make and how it will affect them inluding me. usually people between 14-25 is what they'd consider it. people like to think that if you've grown up in the church or in that type of environment there's no way you'd do anything like sex before marriage or whatever but the sad truth is that alot of these people do it all the time. it's pretty sad and a bad trap to fall into... otherwise she just may be a psycho with dual personalities.

shes a sexy, young looking 49...... but I guess life can mess you up no matter what age you are.

dang! lol ok nevermind