I cant masturbate when think about a girl

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i can masturbate fine when looking at porns, but when i started closing my eyes and thinking about this girl that i fell in love long ago but she rejected my proposal. Then my penis just went down , and I lost interest in looking at porns for the rest of the evening, or until i completely get her picture out of my head. Why is that? Does anyone had this type of situation before?

Probably because you still associate her rejection to her image and you remember how upset you were when she rejected you. I think that would make anyone lose their erection.Only real solution is to stop thinking of her when masturbating. Use the image of some other hot girls or whatever gets your fancy.

but i wasn't upset at all. I just felt really down for a few months thats it.

Yeah but subconsciously you most likely remember the rejection. Basically you have a negative situation placed with this girl.

Same would happen to me if I thought about my first boyfriend. If I was masturbating and than thought about him I would go soft because I have a negative situation associated with him.

but i wasn't upset at all. I just felt really down for a few monthsIs that a huge self-contradiction, or am I reading it wrong?> thats it.That's it? Really down for a few months, no problem? I don't get it.

Some people don't like to admit to problems, I do the same. I could be stabbed and I will just say it barely skimmed me.

to answer SteveA's question there:what i meant was, i just felt sad for a few months and then i got on with my life. No, im not in denial because i told my best friend about it and he cheered me up.

same here i try to think about my gf and my bonner goes away but then i tihnk about my friends and neighbor and i get a hard one so idk just do what u want to..