Right now me and my boyfriend are going through a rough spot. This is particularly because we're not going to be able to see each other for about three months because of school. Before we met we were both battling depression and now that we're going to be apart for so long that it is making my boy friend depressed again. I don't know what to do because I can't physically be there for him and with school and homework we're going to have a hard time getting in talking time. I really don't want him to go into deeper depression because I really care about him and don't want him to hurt himself again. Oh and if it helps, he is 17 and i'm 16.Please post if you have any advice at all (that's not really obnoxious).Thanks!
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Long distance
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Try to have some regular way you keep in contact, like a phone call each evening.
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Unfortunately, you're not your boyfriend's keeper and there's not a whole lot you can do to keep him from slipping into depression other than be there for him. Can I ask if he's worked on his depression? Or you on yours? And by "worked on" I mean with a therapist.There is nothing to say that a person can't battle their way out of depression on their own, but I believe it's rather rare. Most schools have a therapist--or more than one--on the payroll for just this situation. My suggestion--for what it's worth (and I've had my share of clinical depression, myself)--is to suggest each of you find that person to talk to.Good luck to you both!
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thank you for your input.
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Could you both use msn to keep in touch? I think that'd be a good idea, and it has the benefit of being free, so there'd be no restriction on how long you could talk for. You could have some time put by each evening to communicate and tell eachother how your day has been etc. It could be kind of like your special time, so the connection of a relationship would still be there.Physical distance shouldnt drive a wedge between you when it's only short-term. I'd reassure him with that fact.