Horrifying video

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a friend sent me a video of a lady stomping a little black puppy to death with a stiletto...it was the most horrifying thing i ever saw, i almost cried. my face involuntarily scrunched up and i felt so much anger and pain inside me for that poor little puppy. it was so horrible. but i didnt cry. i wanted to but couldnt. what the hell is wrong with me? why cant i cry? i didnt cry at my own fathers funeral for heavens sake...i feel like a robot..

You don't have to cry to feel your emotions. It sounds like you very clearly felt your emotions.

i felt so much anger and pain inside meWhat does crying actually prove? When you're feeling, there's no list of things to check off regarding what your body does. Cry or don't cry, it doesn't matter.

yeah, but its like, what if i never can?

Is it something you're "supposed" to do? Who says? I wouldn't worry about it.

What a horrible, horrible video. :frowning:

Crying is a normal human response to emotional pain so I'm not surprised you're anxious it isnt presenting itself when your upset. But I believe the emotions can act like a pressure cooker in some people and situations and you'll likely let go when the emotions become too great to contain.

I didnt cry at my fathers funeral either and didnt cry over him at all for a couple of years after that. When the tears did come I was surprised at their voilence and velocity. I know it's easier said than done , but try not to worry about it Africa, the tears'll come when they're ready. (and when they do you'll probably be wishing they hadnt and you could go back to not crying - such is the nature of humanity!) x

Crying is a normal human response to emotional painIt's a common human response. "Normal" implies some kind of obligation, and no one is obliged to exibit their feelings in any particular way. If crying comes later, that's fine. If it doesn't, that's fine too.

It is normal i.e. usual, typical or expected. It is also common, and being common dosent preclude it from being normal.The fact that you have responded to a post of mine demonstrates that you didnt understand what I said to you yesterday, so I'll take this one last time to say it again, with greater clarity this time - I HAVE NO DESIRE OR INTENTION OF EVER CORRESPONDING WITH YOU AGAIN ON THESE POSTS, so if you're hoping for a response, dont bother posting me; do you get it this time? Time is a valuable and limited commodity, waste your own if you want, you're not getting any more of mine.

People don't need instruction on how they should grieve, or how they should feel. People should not feel abnormal because they don't do it your way.Africa may have feelings he'd like to discuss, but he doesn't need to be told how he should feel or react.That was redundant, but hopefully clear.[People can respond to any post, in any forum, from anyone, at any time. That's how a message board works. You may answer or not whatever posts you chose to. That is your prerogative.]

This is weird, because I had the same problem for a long time. I was unable to cry for 15 years. Last year an ex (then g/f) was giving me a backrub, we held each other, and I just started crying into her shoulder. Unpredictable things like that will break you.

I have, unfortunately, seen that same video. I didn't cry but I did get that rage of anger. For weeks I couldn’t get that video out of my head and every time I thought about it I would get sick to my stomach and the same rage would come back.I wouldn’t get hung up on the fact you didn’t cry because you simply felt a different emotion in that situation. You cannot determine which emotion you should have; your body will let you know.

Thats exactly what I'm talking about.

ur friend is sick then, thats discusting. i cant even watch happy tree friends cuz i find it desterbing. in american psycho when he stomps the puppy to death, that was one of the most desturbing things i saw 4 a long time. violence to animals is sick cuz its definallt saying sumthing about a person who would do sumthing like that 2 sumthing so defenceless. im sorry, thats just sicknot being able 2 cry at sumthing deeply upsetting isnt that uncommon. dont worry bout it, ull show the emotion when u need to.

thanks for the advice everyone, it has shed a lot of perspective. im seeing things more clearly now.and yeah, Ntroducingmyself, i felt angry too. it was so horrible. i wanted to hurt someone. and i get flashes of it in my head. i dont think ill ever be able to look at stiletto shoes in the same way again...good thing im not a lady i suppose

It'll pass, it took several weeks for the video to get out fo my head. It's a very disturbing video.

Yes, the effect will wear off eventually. I stupidly watched a video of guy getting his head cut off with a knife. Fucking messed me up for a couple of days. I can't get that image out of my head, but it's not like when I first watched it.

i watched that video too..i almost puked..wasnt that the guy down in iraq or sumthing?? (dont mean to offend anyone if im wrong)

Hon i saw the same video is was going around as a bulletin on myspace and it haunted me for weeks.........and made me cry on and off for days after i saw it........thank god it doesn't make me feel so bad anymore, but i will always remember it

No htis was before that.. A Russian in Chechnya. I definitely avoided the Iragi(Pearl) thing after that