This is so wrong

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I often have fantasies about having sex with little boys. I'm 17 and I think about boys who are like maybe 10-14. Nobody in particular and I don't think I would ever act on my feelings...but, I think about it a lot. Does anyone else ever think about this?

okay, you know that its wrong to seek sex from little boys, right? and you dont like having the attraction to them, dont you? then theres nothing wrong with you. if your post was entitled 'im fucking a 10 year old' there would be cause for concer, but you're not and you know its wrong so relax, you're fine.

you can't really controll stuff like this. don't act on it,and your fine.

I agree with the othes plz do nothing about it, be safe not sorry x

As the mother of a twelve year old boy I sincerely hope you never act on it. I hope you understand that fantasy is one thing, but acting it out is another: And that acting out this particular fantasy would make you a paedophile.

Sorry Radeckl, dont mean to be doin a SteveA here, but I do have to disagree with that. The age bracket she cited was ten to fourteen; with a fourteen year old I'd agree with you, but there's a BIG difference between a ten and a seventeen year old, ones a child and ones turning into an adult. I cant help thinking if the genders were swapped the other way around people would be outraged.

That's an attitude that pisses me off sometimes, like because my child's a boy he's not considered as innocent as a girl. If any adult put a hand on my son, male or female, I'd go to prison for them and I'd tell the judge I was quite happy to do my time cause it'd be worth it.

Still, Lgirl, I'm not attacking you here, we all have fantasies and as I said, as long as you keep this in fantasy you wont be able to do damage to anybodies life, including your own.

I agree with you Starfish. Although I think even fanatasizing about a 10 year old boy/girl is disturbing. I think you should talk to a professional before you turn into one of those 26 year old teachers sleeping with her 13 year old student.

It is indeed disturbing hon, cant imagine standing round outside the schoolgates in a long mac myself, lol.

I agree with you here. A fantasy is a fantasy, but I'm sure even the pedophiles in jail started out with fantasies too.

I don't think there's anything "wrong" with fantasies, but I'm curious why you have these desires to begin with. The mothering instinct has nothing to do with sex--after the conception, I mean--so I can't see how that would have any bearing.You really should speak with a professional to get to the heart of the issue, before it starts to gnaw at you more than it obviously is. You know it's wrong to act on those desires, so you know you should eliminate them if at all possible.Best of luck and let us know how you're doing!

Radeckl, nowhere did I say "have your fantasy, just stay away from my kid", so, as I've had to point out to somebody before, it is misrepresentitive to put that in quotation marks in a response post.My attitude towards this is; if you cannot help indulging these fantasies make sure to keep them as fantasies and stay away from ANY kid. Because the title of this thread is 'this is so wrong' it seems clear to me that Lgirl is aware her fantasies, if acted upon, would be deviant and unacceptable.

I don't think there's anything "wrong" with fantasies, but I'm curious why you have these desires to begin with.I'm not sure why I have these desires. I mean..it's not like i think about this all the time or anything either. But, i think maybe it could be about control or something...i really don't know.

So you think that you can condense and conjoin two paragraphs, after having swapped round the order they were printed in, then stick quotation marks around your invention and attribute it to me as a direct quote???!!!

Jesus, you're lucky you're not a journalist; you'd lose your job for that.

Do some more hocus-pocus with the words and show me where you imagine I said you thought it was ok for females to abuse males. Give it some attention there now; maybe if you start hunting round for anagrams, or dissecting whole sentences into single letters and reordering them anyway you like you'll manage to pull it together somehow!

Would you consider talking to a professional about it?For all you know you could have somehow got the 'mothering instint' mixed up with sex, (luv u to bits bintherdunthat, but am not in agreement here) I love taking care of my boyfriend, doing things that could be considered motherly I suppose, cooking for him, making sure he's warm, scrubbing his back in the bath etc. Maybe there's just some psychological confusion crept in here?Which brings me back to; would you consider talking to somebody about it?

My impression is that there's not much that can be done about changing anyone's sexual orientation or interests. Aversion therapy has only a temporary effect. What is more useful is support to build up a strong set of ethics.

I don’t know much about the treatment process in cases like this, psychology is not my area of expertise; but if, as you say, building a strong set of ethics would be more beneficial, are there not professional therapists trained to work with people who have paedophiliac fantasies/tendencies in that 'ethic building' regard?

I didnt attribute any such thing to you Rad, and I'd still like to know where you got it from that I did.What I said was: "I cant help thinking if the genders were swapped the other way around people would be outraged. That's an attitude that pisses me off sometimes, like because my child's a boy he's not considered as innocent as a girl"I was talking about societies attitudes, not yours. If I'd been talking about an attitude of yours I would have attributed it to you directly, and you'd have been left in no confusion about it.Also, you've asserted twice now that "the age she lists is not that great". I'm assuming you're not a parent Rad, cause if you were there's no way you'd regard the age gap between a ten and a seventeen year old, in sexual terms, as "not that great".

By the way, just to clear up any confusion, there should have been a 'you thought' in the middle of this sentence: 'show me where you imagine I said it was ok for females to abuse males'. I edited that after, but you'd obviously already seen the post by then. And thank you, by the way, for the apology. Not very many people are prepared to readily admit when they have made a mistake.

All I can say to Lgirl is that she ought to keep fantasies in her head (which is the best place for most of them, even a lot of the non-harmful ones!) And that she should consider counselling of some sort if these thoughts persist.

As I've already said, the title of her post clearly indicates that she knows this is wrong, so it dosent seem like she's about to start hanging round outside the school gates just yet!

Amen.And you're allowed to disagree with me, star, as long as it's not when you're tiptoeing through the fantasies in my head Oh, and by the way--and this is for everyone--please quit fucking arguing within the threads. If you feel the need to do that, settle in PMs and save the rest of us the trouble of reading through that bullshit.Sorry.