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ok.. didnt kno where 2 post this so figured here...

give u a bit of background knowledge on myself... 18, hispanic, male, currently living in england...

ok, first off... with women, i am fine around them... and can speak really well with them... however, if i want to get 2 know a woman i dont know i have problems... like, i find the approaching and starting the conversation real hard...

another problem i have is... im not the type 2 b at parties or go out to the clubs 2 often, since i dont drink... this is kind of a disadvantage as i dont get the chance 2 meet much women...

i guess what im asking is.. can you give any help on how to approach a woman, what to maybe say... and then... where am i likely to meet women other then the clubs and at parties...

i know it sounds pathetic, but this lack of not being able to approach is really annoyin with me now... so any help is appreciated

yea... i see exactly what u sayin... what u say is makin alot of sense, im defiantly gonna keep this in mind no doubt...i even got another problem.. which i think is really holdin me back...... all the women round my area... are defiantly not my type... i mean, im not physically attracted to em, they are white females - 99% of em (lol)... whereas im attracted 2 females of say black,asian backgrounds... so finding any females of this description around here is proving difficult for me.....

I was just sayin on another thread what a pity a Hispanic man such as yourself didnt like white women, ha ha, but here, if you're into black and asian women it might be better to get into the social scene to some extent in your nearest city, as there are higher concentrations of different nationalities in cities, especially in countries like England and Ireland which are indiginously white.I know you said you're not into drinking, but you dont necessarily need to drink in order to go out socialising occasionally in pubs and clubs, do you?

i see... the nearest city is only... 11 miles from me... so i guess its no distance at all really... will be sure to stop by there...

and its true what you said about the clubs and not drinking, ill give that a go also... thanks

Also I think it might be a good idea, if you're not drinking, to go out earlier in the evening, say about eight o'clock. That way you can bail before people get totally bladdered. When I go out to pick my bloke up if he's been out for a night with the lads you really get to see a lot of undesirable behaviour that you wouldnt notice when you're drinking yourself; people repeating themselves incessantly and dropping things, stumbling etc, just making total berks out of themselves, which dosent make for an enjoyable night if you're sober! Good luck

yea... thanks starfish im def keep these things u said in mind

M-Don - try to meet women where the women you'd like to meet hang out. Nowadays there are more venues for hooking up at non-alcoholic, non-pub settings. Afterall if you meet a girl at the pub and she likes to drink, etc that is probably not going to be a good match for you from the way you have described yourself. Go on the internet and search for these types of activities/venues in your area.In order to feel comfortable talking to a woman (or anyone really) you have to be comfortable with yourself and what it is you are doing/saying at the time, right? For me, personally, making idle conversation is totally painful and I absolutely detest it - "So, how's the weather lately?" blah blah blick! If you are not inherently "funny" then attempting to say something clever will probably not work - on the other hand if you are a comedian and feel comfortable with that go with it, so most of all be yourself.IMO - it is MUCH easier to meet women thru your friends, at work, or at school (maybe take a night course here and there) then it is to approach a total stranger and chat her up. In fact I have to really rack my brain to try and think of women I have met off the cuff at a "chance" encounter with a lame chat-up line like "So, what's your sign?" as opposed to the scores I have met thru friends, work or school. Focus on activities that define who you are and/or who/what you want to be and let meeting girls happen naturally.Sorry can't help with the hispanic/asian thing - but probably the more you limit your choices the less success you are going to have if you get my meaning.Don't be scared or worried about all this - at 18 years old this is just a fact of life - you want to meet girls and don't know how and its difficult! So that is just the way life is - its hard to be lonely, but its okay! I guarantee you somewhere out there, there is at least one (if not many thousands) of women just waiting to meet you!

thanks 2 every1 that got back 2 me on this.. appreciate the help n support u gave... its ok, i think i realise now what i got to do.. im only 18.. i got time, but im gonna do what i gotta do... make my moves n see what happens..all b good

Hey mate what part of the country are you from? I was very similar position to you a few years ago, i think Helms nailed the issue on the head. When you are trying to talk to someone and having an agenda it can make things difficult as ur mind is on overdrive, so many questions, negitive thourghts etc.The best places to meet women are Pubs, Clubs and Bars. Alcohol does help a great deal, i quit drinking a while back and found it more difficult to do and say what i wanted to. Besides, drinking is what brits do best! Sad but true When women are drunk as a result of alcohol will be more relaxed and being in pubs/clubs they will be expecting to be hit on. Women dress to impress men. Fact.Ultimately you know what you need to do its just taking a chance. Whats the worst that can happen? Checkwww.fastseduction.com, read the FAQ and the 101 guide. It will help put you on the right track, especially the first few chapters.