Did you lose your virginity the way you wanted to?

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haha it was a 13th birthday present from my brother[my bro got me a hot chick, i didnt fuck my bro lmao]

Originally Posted By: hotassmofohaha it was a 13th birthday present from my brother[my bro got me a hot chick, i didnt fuck my bro lmao wow. How did he wrap her?Did she pop out of the cake,or did he just use a lotta wrapping paper? :P

I lost it to a girlI really liked, and knew very well. The reason I chose her, though, wasn't because I cared a lot about her. I was familiar with her and figured I could learn some stuff about sex from her without worrying about embarrassing myself. She and I actually had a few first times, because my pathetic self kept going limp. When we finally got everything to work, it was over too quick and I didn't feel like I'd done too well (I didn't come, just lasted for about 10 minutes before going limp again.)

All in all I'd say the best way to go, for a guy at least, would be to find a girl who isn't a virgin. You should know her, and you should be attracted to her, but you shouldn't be in love with her. For girls, I would definitely say go for a guy your own age or younger. Older guys who would pop your cherry do not want what they tell you they want - usually.

Quote:You should know her, and you should be attracted to her, but you shouldn't be in love with her. In other words, lead her to think you like her and then use her for sex? That's nice.That is, of course, you mean a mutual one night stand type of thing with no strings attached.  Quote:Older guys who would pop your cherry do not want what they tell you they want - usually. What does a guy being older have anything to do with popping the cherry? And I didn't quite understand the rest. Older guys don't want to tell girls what they want? Did I read that right?

Never said you should be misleading. I was very forward with the girl I lost mine to. Told her I wasn't in love with her but I wanted to sleep with her. If she'd have expected anything more I wouldn't have gone through with it. I just think a guy's first time would be better if it were casual. So a one night stand would be an option, yes.I said that older men don't usually want what they tell you they want. In other words they say they want one thing and really want another. But, like I said, that's usually.

I regret nothing. I dont consider myself a virgin and havent for a few years now, but im a gay man, so what would the rest of you consider losing your virginity?

Originally Posted By: RadecklMy opinion: Keep is as long as you can and give it to that someone special.You only have it once to give. Couldn't agree with you more on that one. It was so romantic (I know that sounds cheesy but wait!). It was on Valentines day of 2006, I was 17 he was 18. We were dating for a year and he took me out for dinner at this beautiful hotel. Afterwards he said that he had booked a room for us to just relax in. We never could just lay down in my bed cause that was prohibited by my parents and his mother didn't really alow us alone. I was expecting it to happen. I opened the door and there were candles lit and rose petals in the shape of a heart on white sheets. It was so beautiful and definately memerable.Sorry for boring you guys with my long story.

No boredom at all, ChristyRes, and welcome to A2A.The trouble with guys' doing that is it sets a difficult standard for the rest of us.

Lol thanx.

You know as long as you try that's all that counts.

you gotta keep up Ineligible lol. most women like that kinda shit. the thing is once you have her spoild to that kinda stuff you got to keep on making the next better. for shannon's 19th bd i did the rose everything for her... spent lots of green on those roses and her rose cake and hotel room. for christmas i did the rose a day till christmas day thing.. green well spent but shit she is spoiled! she hinted to me that her birthday is getting close.... (next month... next friday exatly) I don't know wtf i'm going to do but it's her 20th so it's got to beat her 19th... u know.

I hope my wife doesn't hear about this! Next she'll start wanting me to buy her her own birthday presents, instead of having to buy them herself.

that lose it with someone you love crap is kind of annoying. and saving for marriage just seems retarded to me. we're humans. we were put on this earth to mate. our bodies want us to. It might be a religion thing and i gues i have to respect that but then i have no respect for religion. "mind altering drugs are a sin" fuck catholics seriously. im bipolar and i have adhd so i guess i sin every fucking day (k that was a bit off-topic) anyways, yea i just dont see the point in waiting for marriage. i say lose it with someone you know while your sober. thats all. that way america doesnt call you a slut (if you're a girl) or praise you like you're the messiah (if you're a guy). sorry if i offended anyone here im just extra angry so it adds to my viciousness.

Losing your virginity or waiting until marriage may seem silly to you but to others, they hold that close to their hearts. I don't really believe a lot of people will wait until marriage, but that doesn't mean the few that do are "retarded". I think it's something admirable.Losing it to someone random doesn't work for everyone. You can ask my boyfriend on that one.  Quote:that way america doesnt call you a slut (if you're a girl) or praise you like you're the messiah (if you're a guy).That makes no sense. Sadly, for women who enjoy sex, they are called sluts no matter what but guys are off the hook.

Its hard to always top the last time.The one thing I have not been able to top is a hour long massage and pedicure in a spa. Its her favorite thing and I think she would be disappointed to NOT get it at this point.Its always part of the gift, I avoid jewelry, she doesnt wear any anyways aside form the ring. you can never go wrong with flowers, and a night out is always a good idea, especially when your old and have kids and they dont come around very often.I took her to the symphony once, she was excited to go but was bored as fuck 10 minutes into it. Ill avoid that in the future.Mine is always happy to get new camping shit or fishing shit, but I have a rare girl, I dont think you can get away with buying too many girls new sleeping bags or a fishing pole or nice reel or fishing vest.I hope this is not one of my posts that julie bothers to read as this year im trying to get reservations for the homestead... its a private resort outside of heber city in the uintas, stay in a cabin, ride horses all that shit after a gift certificate to the spa.its a bastard to always top the last one, good luck to ya in keeping it up.I figure average life expectancy and what not plus we both smoke, i only gotta do it 30 more times or so, you found yours at a younger age, you got a good 50 plus to get through so ya may want to start planning ahead

well she loves the massage, while iM good, she gets that a few times daily on weekends and always at night on weekdays, but iM no where near as good as the guy I pay to rub my wife! He went to school and happens to be gay. He really is good too, Iv had a few from him myself.Just to address what will come from some people on this board who love to give me some shit...There was no happy endings involved! it makes her feel good, as to the rest, I try to make it some time we can spend alone, something to let her know I care and just because its been a few years I dont take her for granted. Besides we are gonna end up with the camping and fishing stuff anyways, may as well get it for a gift, I at least know she will like it.

I get the power saws not her! Actually any tools, can you ever have enough tools?

she gets gifts more than once a year, her bday, christmas, sometimes just because I happen to see something I thought she would like, flowers here and there just because.
Topping the gifts is more just how I am, than what she needs or wants. Once you give something great you have to keep it up! its just who I am not something that was forced on me.

i was raped...be careful out there

I was 15 and it was my very first real gf. Or so I thought. Actually, she wanted to do it a lot more than I did. She kept telling me how much she wanted to do it with me, and finally I said okay. I was pretty nervous, scared I'd accidentally make her pregnant, and extremely embarrassed trying to go buy some condoms. We were both virgins. The first time was awkward, but okay. We did it again a couple days later and it was a lot better.

Then she told her friends about it and it got back to her parents, and they confronted her and she pretty much told them that I had raped her! That I forced her to have sex with me! It was extremely ugly for a while. Obviously, that ended our relationship.

At the time I knew I was falling in love with my ex. We had only been together for a few weeks but it just seemed to work. It was a great night and I loved every bit about it. He told me months later when he was SOBER (so it was actually how he felt) that at the time he thought I was too easy and he was thought I was a slut after we had sex. I was shattered. He even thought I was too comfortable and because I didnt bleed he suspected that I had had sex before. He was an idiot!!!! I felt humiliated because it was my first time and I absolutely trusted him. I hate the fact now that it was with him. But I am glad I have the experience because I know I would be more comfortable now in a relationship and would be more careful as to who I have sex with. I think I am definately better off and I know I am not just going to marry the next guy I go out with.

No, I wish I hadn't lost it with the person I did.The relationship lasted 3 months, she was too openly sexual right from the start, and I stayed with her and lost it after I found out she cheated. Terrible move.I was also under pressure from everyone at school thinking I was some sort of sexual wierdo. There were rumours being spread that I had some sort of freakish sexual fantasies, and since I'm the quiet reclusive type, everyone believed it, and I felt I had to prove I had a normal sex life.Wasted it? Yes.Regret it? Yes.Nothing I can do about it now though, except try and forget it.