Girl letting a guy get away with perversion

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A very important friend of mine told me today about this guy peeking at her while semi-clothed on a school trip. Heres her words on msn:"well okay, the classes live sin tow houses right and we had a room wiht a balcony and the girls next door too, but theyre balcony is connected wiht ours, so they can come and knock on our balcony door. what happened was i wanted to take a shower and i took my clothes off and i was onyl standing there with a bar and underwear and then all fo the sudden a guy i know comes along to our balcony (he went in thru the girls next door) and said " helooooooo Shivaaaaaaani" so i thought what the hell? where did that come form, and i noticed that our balcony extended a bit and u can still stand at the edge on the left and see evethg whats happening in the bathroom while ur showering when u bend over.so i grabbed a towel realyl quickly before he cold glance thru the window and held it against it lol, but then it fell a bit down one time and he saw me in my bra.. arrghhh , but the girls were nice ot shoo him away and grabbed him away ofmr our side of the balcony lol , i couldt shower for 10 mins coz he was standing there annoying me :hmpf:"Does this strike anyone else as incredibly perverted of the guy in question?I asked her if she complained about the guy, but she didnt. She clearly didnt enjoy the experience of being perved on, as can be seen from the above words, but she didnt seem to think getting the guy in trouble with the teachers was a good idea.I was shocked actualy, that she didnt get the guy in trouble. I was seriously revolted by the guys behavior. But she didnt understand why I was wound up about it, and the more she showed how she didnt understand the more wound up I got. She just didnt take it as seriously as me. She clearly wasnt overjoyed at it but she didnt see it as anything worth getting sorted out. It was quite a while ago so there is little she can do now, but she just didnt unserstand why I was so concerned. I am just her friend and have no special right to preach to her, but I was only angry cos I care about her and because I dont see why any girl with self-respect could let a guy get away with that.Perhaps I did over react though. I cnat force her to understand why I thought it was bad, I just wish she wouldnt let guys get away with what clearly makes her uncomfortable. I hope I didnt upset her too much, I'd never argued like that with her ever, but i was really horrified that any girl would let a guy get away with that. Was I wrong to get angry like that? I know its her life but she was clearluy unhappy about what happened

Some girls don't take it seriously unfortunately. When my older brothers used to live here they'd always bring their friends to the house when they were out and they'd always come in my room, mess with my things, annoy me to death etc etc. One time I had taken a shower and I went to go change my clothes and one of his nasty little friends was in my room when I came in. But me being well me... I'm agressive when it comes to that stuff so I threw a book at him. I've told my brothers countless times to keep their nasty friends from upstairs or places that are personal but evidently they're hard of hearing. It's so weird when girls wear like tiny short mini skirts or tight tank tops or revealing shirts and then get upset at a guy for whistling at them or something. It's your fault duh what do you expect. People should take it seriously though I agree.

maybe she is the slutty type

Perhaps I should clarify something I said in the above post. She was unhappy about it. She wouldnt have told me about it otherwise.Anyway I have no spoken to a mutual friend of ours and it appears that sometime ago some guy like pinched her ass or something and when she complained about it she got majorly bullied and thats why she puts up with this shit. This didnt improve my mood last night.

i wouldnt have told a teacher etha if i was in that position. the guy probably would have got sum shit from me but, i expect bullshit like that from guys, especially high school aged boys. guys r asshole, and behavour like that is just sumthing some girls have 2 deal with.ive had my ass grabed by a guy i didnt no at school in frount of his friends but the coward ran off b4 i could yell at him. ive also been to parties where a guy would not stop touching my arms, stomach etc even when i told him i wanted him 2 stop and i dint like it and im not comfatable with being touched by ppl i dont no well. he said hed only stop if i slaped him in the face 4 it and hed presume i wanted it other wise. as im definatly not a violent person, i didnt hit him 4 it.guys r assholes, this behavour from that particula guy was nothing special or out of the ordinary. so yes, maybe it was abit of an over reaction

Thats so terrible! Why dont you complain about it? Surely even if you expect it you shouldnt just allow it to continue? Do you really need to refer to guys in general though? I dont think most guys do this.

why do you let people do that? I wouldn't mind if my guy friends messed around like playfully. usually they pick me up or hold me down on the ground if I say something about me being tougher or something. Or they'll tickle me to death and whatever but if they touch me in "that" way I tell them to stop. And they stop. I've never had to use brutal force with them before except with Nick because he was just naturally dirty. I but still you shouldn't let people do that to you. I don't tell teachers things like that because most of them wouldn't care.

Are you sure teachers wouldnt care? How could they not care? Has the whole world gone mad!?

It seems that way. The going mad thing, that is.

i didnt complain cuz a) the 1st guy was at a party, infact, it was at his flat. who the eff am i gonna complain 2. i did tell him 2 stop, very firmly but it didnt help. i ended up just not talking to him...that helped a little. b) the guy grabed my ass and then ran in the opposit direction, fast. i didnt see who so what the eff would i have told a teacher? c) id b 2 embaressed and ashamed to talk 2 a teacher or any1 about that d) i dont like to kick up a fuss about stuff, i try and deal with things on my ownit would b fighting a looseing battle. i refer to guys in general because unfortunatly, this is how i veiw males cuz pretty mcuh all the ones ive met r assholes. im sorry. logic tells me there much b nice guys but experience tells me thats bullshit.

I know what you're saying SYL, it is depressing, especially if you care about the girl in question.

yea, the guy sounds like a perv, but what do i know? im only 16, and i am NOT a perv, so i guess i cant really comment, oh well

all the guys u meet are assholes and pervs cause u hang out with that certain group of people. my friends would never do anything like that. try maing new friends with a different group

i honestly dont seek these guys out. really, i have no idea how they all seem 2 find me! i dont hang out with males ( 2many bad experiences, i really dont like males in general it seems) but i dont go out of my way 2 avoid them or anything, i talk 2 them when they talk 2 me and all that...

where r all the nice guys hideing? :frowning: