Ex-girlfriend

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so,yesterday my ex-girlfriend sits next to me in 1st period science. about two minute before class ends,she passes me a note asking me to go out with her- again. i was too shocked that that bitch asked me again,that i didn't answer. so i told aj (my best friend for those of you who don't know), who asked her about it. then he told me that she said it was a joke. so i guess my question is, why would anyone joke about that? would you?

It may not have been a joke, but when it became clear to her that you weren't going to accept, she said it was a joke to save face.

oh. I didn't think of that. i hope, for her sake, thats what it was, otherwise shes even more of a bitch than i thought.

If I had to guess, I'd say she was serious...right up until you had your friend ask her about it...and then she felt the need to cover so she didn't seem like the weak one. My suggestion: if you really like her and think it can work out, ask her to speak with you alone--without her friends or your friends around--and see what the girl has to say.Best of luck, guy!

thanks. you obviously haven't seen my previous thread about her,though. if you did, you would know how much i hate her.she asked me out last year,i said yes, she was a bitch,she tried to rush the relationship,i broke up with her,and then she started telling the whole school that she broke up with me so it looked like i got dumped.sorry if that sounded rude,i didn't mean for it to.i really appreciate the advice, i just don't want anyone to think i like her in the least.

ha, she is a beotch

Why do you hold so much hatred toward her? Maybe I need to find your old thread.

because i've known her since kindergarden,and then she starts being such a bitch. heres my other thread.http://www.afraidtoask.com/forums/showflat.php?Cat=&Board=UBB14&Number=293620&Forum=All_Forums&Words=SilentTears&Match=Username&Searchpage=39&Limit=25&Old=allposts&Main=291994&Search=true#Post293620

I have a lot to say about this... I'll be sure to post it when I have time. I think it will help you in the long run.

thanks in advance,then.

This kind of relates to some things that are happening in my life right now.I held a lot of hatred toward my ex for a long time. I'm sure a few thousand people have read this story of mine, but to make a long story short. I fell in love with this girl, she tried to sleep with my best friend, I was heart broken, I moved to a different city just to escape her, came back to my hometown and told her never to talk to me again, blah blah blah. So, I didn't talk to her at all for almost two years.A few weeks ago, one of my best female friends tells me that my ex was thinking about calling me. My first reaction was getting agitated and telling her that if my ex called me I'd flip out and probably tell her off. Why does she want to call me now?"She said that the both of you are adults and she thinks both of you are being stubborn and stupid. Then she started talking about how you were the closest person she's ever been to and it's sad that you two lost that something that most people never find." Blah blah blahI told my friend that I would only believe all that if she said it straight to me and I hope if she calls that I'm in a great super nice mood or else I'm not sure what I may say if she calls.A week goes by and I'm just sitting there thinking about it. Thinking about who I've become and who I used to be. Was I better person then? I decided that the better man would call her and break this silly oath (to never talk to her again) I made to myself a couple years back. So I got her number from my friend and sat there and stared at the number for a couple hours. Finally, I just picked up the phone and called my ex with nothing planned to say. I told myself, "Wing it. My brain isn't working right anyway."It was a 3 hour phone conversation. Most of it was her crying. I didn't apologize for anything I did or said in the past. I still feel that it was justified. Eventually, we got off the phone on good terms. I call her every other day and she calls me every other day. We're still not really what I would call friends, but at least we're on good terms.Since I called her, I have noticed a big difference in my mood. It's funny how something can bother you so much and you not even know it.Anyway, I guess the moral of the story is basically that, when you're ready, you should probably make peace with your ex. When you're ready is the key. It took me a little over 2 1/2 years to do so. There's too many things in life to worry about and hold hatred in your heart.

Exact same relationship happened to me. She kept asking me out on the phone but I thought she was just messing around but she wasn't. When I realised she wasn't I asked her out because I felt bad about it and kind of liked her. Then she kept trying to get in my pants (not to be rude). So then I dumped her (she did drugs and got drunk a lot too...) realizing wtf am I doing!? Then somehow a small amount of people heard that she dumped me which REALLY ticked me off. Now I almost completely ignore her even though I can kind of tell she still likes me a bit and it's kind of mean.