Oh s**t! Slight Problem...

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Cutting to the chase:I fancied this attention seeking lass. Well, I'm falling for her best mate, who I also know quite well, except she has a bf. Went to see her with my friend today, and we had a good time, laughing, joking, it was great. But then, what do I do? I think I might have a chance here, but her bf is a nice dude. He just never has time for her though. They've been going out for ages, and he doesn't talk to her at school, barely spends time with her out of school, and they only see each other properly every now and then. He lives near her, and I live further away, but I actually make the effort to go and see her. Shes so funny, kind, pretty, but I feel she's holding on to him because she doesn't know if she will be able to get another bf.So, do I grow a backbone, win her over, and show her a good relationship, or do I let her carry on with this nice guy?Please help! Opinions appreciated!

Is he your buddy?If he he leave her the fuck alone.If not, there is no ring on her, she isnt property, she has a mind of her own, so do something about it and let her decide, or forever wonder what would of happened.

Hey ya cheeky shitehawk, are you saying if there's a ring on her she's property?! lol

Nope, just my shitty grammar showing again.
If there is no ring then you are not fucking with someones life COMMA and she isnt anyones property.
Better ?
or is my grammar slip still showing ??

Hey stan....you know, this is a pretty common topic, recently, so let me ask you a question: what the fuck do YOU want to do???? Do you want to wonder, or would you prefer to know for sure if she'd be amenable to the idea? Damn, dude, the ball is most certainly in your court...so take action or don't.

I will tell you this, however: the thing I hate most in life is regret...thinking in the wee hours that "damn...maybe it would have, could have, been different if I'd only done THIS."

Stan, everyday in life is choices--doors open or doors closed--you just have to be willing to approach, knock and walk through when answered. The flip side, however, is that you have to have the nads to suck it up and deal when no one wants to come to the door. Are you capable of dealing with it if you spill your romantic guts to this girl and she says "I really like you, but I just want to be friends"? If not, do nothing, find appropriate porn on the internet and whack off like many other men who know how to keep their emotions safe and protected.

Does that help at all? Best of luck!

only problem id have with it is her, if she already has a boyfriend and they dont see each other often theres got to be reason why theyre still together, and if she were to start liking you, trying to make a decision between you two would be hell for her, but if its just a question of courage, grow a pair, put down the lollipop and get your ass in gear

Grow some ballsWho cares if this guy is your enemy, mate or brother. Just go for it. I'm a right cnut when it comes to women.Go for anything. Who cares of the consequences.Otherwise you will just live through life with only regrets.Mr. Nuts

Dudes, I was expecting the opposite reply I will almost certainly go for it now I'm not one to romantically spill my guts to someone, but I got that incling that she liked me, so before I went dropping hints that I felt the same, I wanted a bit of advice. I'm not good friends with her bf, but everyone I know likes him, and I'm pretty sure I would lose a lot of respect gong out with her if she dumped him. But then again, who needs to know Rock on people! Thanks!

Look man, there is one major rule in dating:NEVER ASK OUT SOMEONE THAT'S IN A RELATIONSHIP, UNLESS, HIS/HER PARTNER IS A COMPLETE ASSHOLE(AND THAT DOESN'T JUST MEAN IF YOU DON'T LIKE HIM/HER)Why? Because it's rude, and selfish, how would you feel?

Fuck that, Iv taken away plenty of girls from other men, thier loss, should of taken better care of them and they wouldnt of had a reason to leave.Iv had lots of men ask out my woman, I never worry about it, she tells them to fuck off all on thier own, the ones that didnt get the hint I paid a visit to, they leave her alone now as well.If you take care of your woman, you dont have to worry, fthey leave seeking shit you dont give them, if you did it for them, they wouldnt be able to be taken.Fuck rules.

yeah dude, if the girl's bf is ur friend, u have to ask urself is the friendship with the guy more important or the relationship u "could" have with the girl more important. Once u see which one is more important, u got a clear decision right there.

No, I see no value in the relationship with her bf. He's a nice guy, but he's boring as fuck, and he's not exactly going to hunt me down afterwards and beat me up. I'm game, but the main question is, is she?

My friend, life is to short to wonder. If the girl is true to her man, you're going to strike out and no true harm done--to other than your own self-esteem and sex life and I'm fairly certain you'll live through that.

Oh, and by the way...would you really want to accept advice from someone who apparently takes his from imaginary characters created by George Lucas?

You've got a point there, no doubt about it. I left my ex fiancee for the man I'm with now and if my ex hadnt fallen in drunk every other night for five years I wouldnt have been capable of being 'stolen', cause I'd have been too happy to want to leave as I was utterly MAD about him till the drinking wore me down and ruined everything between us. It was his behaviour that eroded all the worth in the relationship. It was his fault I left, not my current partners and not mine. Of course he's still drinking his head off and blaming me and my partner for his 'downfall', but such, I suppose, in the denial-based nature of alcoholism..