Life Really Sucks.

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My Life Sucks. Im SCARED to talk to girls so thats why i've never had a gf and i just feel really alone cause im like the only one who has never had a gf, im a porn addict at 12 YEARS OLD! I've almost given it up though. And I sometimes have problems with my family

hunn every guy starts somewhere with a girl. dont feel like giving up. i thought that same way when i was 12..and now ive been in a relationship for almost 3 years.the porn is a little young for you tho...try and stay away from that. if you want you can pm me if you feel lonely. ive been depressed for a while, so i know how you feel.

I didn't have a girfriend until I was 17. At 12 I hardly remember anyone having a boyfriend/girlfriend and that was just starting for some people. I'm 18 and I'm still afraid to ask out girls (although somehow I manage to pull it out of myself every now and again) because there's risk involved, especially if you really like them or are friends with them and you are afraid of messing it up. Getting used to talking to girls will just come with experience. You need to put yourself in situations where you talk to people you are uncomfortable talking to, and from there it will get easier. I know it's difficult, I was in pretty much the same situation as you (yes including the porn I am sad to say, which I eased off on now). Things will get better. Just make sure not to pass up opportunites to talk to people just because you're shy. You'll probably find that some of your funnest times will start with awkward moments, because it's those times that are new and exciting.

I started going to a nearby music festival hosted by my friend's step dad back when I was 13, and have visited it ever since. To be honest, that was really my first time where I hung out with a couple of girls as friends of mine (as opposed to someone else's friends who I never talked to). It's funny looking back, just how quiet and shy I was, but it was awesome hanging out with them and it was a great chance for improving my social skills. Now it's no problem, it's just something you have to get over and get used to. It may take a little longer for us shy guys, but you'll find it easier eventually.

Im almost my Only one in my grade at the most who has never had a GF. Except for one of my friends. And Yea I know i should stay away from the porn. but like i said i've almost given it up.

Ah well, at your age hardly anyone is dating seriously anyways. I think you're probably over analyzing and the situation isn't quite what you think. I highly doubt you and your friend are the only ones who haven't had serious girfriends.

A relationship at 12 is just some stupid thing, I had a relationship at 12 I never spoke to the girl.

You're 12 dude! You should be having fun! Kids around you may be "going out" but they are hardly relationships and most certainly won't last. Have fun being 12, girls are a hassle you can deal with later.

I prefer to be a loner. =P I Dont like parties/dances. And its not just not having a GF its just my problem of being scared to talk to them. =D

Im 18 and never had a proper relationship. So what?These things come when they're sposta. 12 is rediculous to be expected to have a gf. I think only one on my friends when I was 12 had a bf and that was considered weird...Time are changing.Don't put so much pressure on yourself, and yep, lay off the porn

Can I suggest getting to know girls as friends rather than potential girlfriends? It's seeing them as possible girlfriends that makes it scary, but what you want is to be more relaxed with them. So just treat them like another person, say hi, talk to them as you would to anyone else.

Hi there, I think it's time for me to wade in with my big size 12's again, and point out that the majority of people don't have a "real" relationship until much older than this, it's a time to have fun for you... yes, girls are part of that fun, and for some, I don't doubt, start young... I know I was an early developer, but, all that did was make things difficult for me, as others didn't understand what was happening, as a result, this damaged my confidence, and, I felt that by 18 I was possibly the last of my friends not to have had a relationship, I finally met someone I fell head over heals for when I was 19, and before I was 20, I knew my first "real" heartache so don't be to quick to jump in... I realise now, in retrospect that the reason I was the last of my friends to find someone was very much to do with the fact that I was the youngest... when I think about it, most people's first real relationships who I know didn't start until at least sort of 16 upwards, and for the more mainstream, anything serious until about my age(at that time)... don't worry about being alone though, you'll find someone when and where you least expect it!! Honestly, I'm not kidding, feel free to pm if you wanna talk :smile: ... sometimes, that's all it takes to feel better, just someone to talk to :smile:

Dan